I see common ground between you: there often remain social pressures to extend respect to people for whom we do not
feel it.
I once knew a woman who exhorted her children never to show respect to another person unless that person had
earned it. I wanted to believe she was just expressing herself poorly, but she had ambitions to become a
psychologist. I didn't
feel much respect for her after that (though there was much else lacking in her behaviour... I could give a list) but common courtesy meant that I would continue to extend respect to her, but maybe that's more about being British
Of course, I wouldn't show this respect to someone who'd outright insulted me, but then who
would?
And what would I do if I ever met Justin Bieber?