Love means never having to say you're sorry.
All of us with even a hint of neurons know why you occasionally toss a table. It's to vent frustration and my philosophy has always been...
Better out than in.
Still, there is hope for you yet as time passes. You will eventually reach the point where your Auntie Sally will cease her monthly visits and all will be right with your world.
Try to remember that those who display disrespect of others or the place they call home, are just jealous and need to get a life or maybe just a friendly, understanding hug or two.
Finding a sense of humor would be even better.