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Originally Posted by Schroeder
I'm not much of a counselor and as someone who can't come to terms with his own life my advice might be worthless (and it's 2 a.m. over here...)but have you ever figured out why your son hates you? I mean he must have a reason for that feeling. If you don't know maybe you should ask him directly for the reason and what you BOTH can do about it. Booting him might destroy your relationship forever so I would safe that one as last resort (but still an option).
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Talk to him but more importantly, listen to him. Really listen. The proper ratio should be 99% listening, 1% talking and 0% judging. It may take a few tries so expect to totally fail the first few times. But if a relationship with your son is important to you, it will be worth it.
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I tried cutting out the Internet for 24 hrs to "prompt" him about doing some clean-up. He blew his stack and still did nothing.
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Translation: you passive-aggressively tried to take control away from him, taking the decision out of his hands and using something external to get your point across. . And you were expecting exactly what type of response? I gotta be harsh, but that was not the way to handle it. You kinda made the problem worse as you have fostered a sense of resentment in your son.
I would start by apologizing for that. That is a good way to start the discussion. Besides apologizing to him will really confuse him.
Good luck with it.