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Originally Posted by CaptainHaplo
Sadly, a book about a mentally ill millionaire who engages in kink as his own personal "therapy" - as told by the person he engages with - is simply not a good representation of the BDSM world.
Were the main "dom" character a real life person, I can tell you that I do not know of a community in the world that would be accepting of him as portrayed.
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In our workshops we spent a lot of time identifying the differences between fantasy fiction and reality of BDSM relationships. Erotic fiction is great. It helps people explore their fantasies and can give couples some very hot ideas. But I have never found any scene fiction come close to the complexities, depth, and frankly satisfaction of a real consensual BDSM relationship.
I think 50 shades was so popular was that it was marketed as "legitimate" fiction so that people did not feel uncomfortable buying it. Honestly, the writing was rather disappointing and anyone who had spent any time in the scene would recognize that this was actually one of the lower quality fiction out there.
But the good news is that BDSM is becoming more mainstream. If it helps one person feel more comfortable about their fantasies and can lead them to join a legitimate BDSM educational group, it is a win for the community.
What I fear is that there will be uneducated and inexperienced people who will read these books and try to implement them. That can be damaging not only physically but emotionally.