Yup, sounds to me you need to check out the sticky with sober's list, read post 1 and 2 carefully, then install the mods in his .mep list .. you can use the member all in one zip, but that does not have all the mods, you can use an available .mep file, but it might nog contain a current list. The list in post 1 is leading .. always.
If you follow instructions and use the referenced links, you should have little trouble .. feel free to ask if you run into issues.
Also, it seems a lot more complicated and immense to install then it actually is
