How about a SH3 commander solution like this:
If you want refuelling, you go to a certain coordinate, save the game and launch SH3 commander, select some "refuel" option.
Your savegame will then changed in regards to fuel and torps (but only if the resupply is from a surface raider or a merchant, not from a milk cow.
You enter back in game and can continue....
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