@ skybird
I do understand the whole theme is a very important one for you and you are very well informed about the biological or assumed mental background.
You want to care for a healthy kids development, because you think it is totally 'unnatural' to have two male or two female parents. You fear the kids will lack something male or female in their childhood, what pops up in their thirties as some kind of mental disease. You accept any problems for the kids in your natural family because they are natural. You wish there would be no problems, but they are at least natural.
Do you have any scientific proof for your asumption of later mental problems? And especially in comparison to 'natural' raised people? Do we even have enough material to make a statement?
My personal experience with homosexuals is not based on any cliches but on personal experience. I met more than a few in my life. A friend of my parents, a male assistant of the fairy type as an elder superior with a ridiculus hairpiece, several business partners and a former 'to be my sister in law'. I once had a very cultivated offer while waiting for a pizza. My wife runs her own business and I meet two of her gay customers now and again. I realize right now the female fraction is only one.
You are absolutly correct, there are criminals and dark minded amongst the gays too. It seems to me they are less dominant than in heterosexual orientated groups. Sorry, I can't change my personal impression.
This all is no excuse to hinder gay people to have families with kids. I guess any kid would accept any obscure mental disease in their later life in exchange for a loving and caring childhood. That's with the natural raised people similar. They can get it and the others can get it either. But your parents stay your parents. These two people of your family you have a special feeling for; either positive or negative.
What would a gay parented bonded child answer, questioned if it wants to have it's second daddy/mommy replaced by a 'natural' opposite sex?
If your fear is based on facts, would it be a solution to ensure the gay parented kids have other sex teachers and kindergardeners? Do grand parents count? Uncles and aunts? A family is more then two parents.
Until today the kids were/are dominantly raised by their mothers. The fathers were/are all day long at work. Did/Do the kids suffer from this dominant female parenting?
And how is this female dominance in kindergardens and basic schools to be interpreted? Is it natural or simply a matter of fact the kids have to deal with and have to adapt to?
Do you think many in their thirties suffer a mental desease, because the female factor in their youth was so dominant?
Mobbing is a problem for kids, true. Especially for foreign kids, black kids, yellow kids, too small or too huge kids, sleepy or too clever kids, shy or mommy kids, redheads or rednecks, uncool or poor kids, kids with old sneakers and outdated cell phones or fat mommys... - for kids in general as for adults who can't deal with it. Add the gay parents attribute and it shoots through the ceiling?
I accept your doubts and your natural approach, but I think your fears are unreasonably high.
Kids are very adaptive and open-minded gay parents will probably try to balance any dominant sex actively. Maybe more than regular parents just to prove the critics wrong.
Would we try to do the best for our children? Give them a chance to show their egality.
P.S. We don't have to go again. Give me a link to read your other arguments if possible.
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