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Originally Posted by frau kaleun
That's far less selfish IMO than having a kid because I've been pressured or conditioned into thinking that I'll never be "complete" without one, or to please someone else, or for any other reason than a burning insatiable desire to reproduce. Children are srs biznss, raising them is a HUGE responsibility. I'd have to want it really bad to even embark on that adventure. Anything less wouldn't really be fair to the child.
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I grew up with two sisters. I have two daughters of my own. All four have never been told that they will be incomplete if they do not have children. In fact, my one sister is adopted Korean. My other sister adopted a Korean, as well as, had two girls of her own. My soon to be 15 year old has stated she will adopt over having a child of her own birth. As far as pleasing another to have a child, no one has pressured anyone in my family. To further that notions, why not adopt a child already on this mud ball? Anyway, sorry you were pressured. It is not right.
Yes, children are serious business that many take much to lightly (Honey Boo Boo). At any rate, perhaps adopting is two fold for this author. He is not adding another body but is helping one that is already here. But, wait, he gets angered at crying kids. This statement ends it for me and his dissertation on saving the world.