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Originally Posted by Sailor Steve
My dad died last July. I didn't start a thread on it because I didn't want any condolences, for various reasons. Anyway, my sister posted it on FaceBook, and got a lot of replies, one of which was from a friend of hers, saying "There's a new angel looking down on us from heaven."
I told my sister how hard it was for me to bite my tongue and say nothing, when what I wanted to post was "Dad was a lifelong atheist. He not only wouldn't thank you for saying that, he'd probably laugh in your face." My sister thanked me for holding my peace. |
When my Mom passed about a 18 months ago, my sis got a very fundy preacher to do her service, her husbands brother. Mom was a fairly strong christian, but a moderate Methodist. I recalled when her last brother died, she was irate that the preacher turned his funeral into a hell and damnation sermon. He wasn't "saved", nor would he confess on his death bed. Still can hear him yelling..
"We'll never know about Jay, all we can hope is he confessed." Then a long spill how the rest of them didn't have to go to hell and be tortured and gave an alter call...
My Mom was shaking she was so mad, stating he didn't say anything about how Jay was a good man, generous to all, faithful husband, etc...
Anyways, I told the preacher at my Mom's funeral I didn't want a hellfire Baptist sermon, to keep it on what a wonderul mother I had... It didn't take 5 minutes he was preaching one. I almost exploded, but held my peace. When he got done, I did take the stand and told people what a wonderful mom I had.
I spoke to him about it afterwards, he just went into a spill of how he goes where the spirit leads him. I told him if he can't honor the wishes of a grieving family to look for another line of work...