[Skybird]

Depression, in a wider interpretaqtion, aims at a life status of "inactivity", due to lacking energy. That activity therfore does not help depression to persist and to improve, to put it this ironic, is no surprise.

The difficult trick is to get a really depressive person into activity mode first. And to prevent the rise in energy level from translating into a successful suicide attempt.

Depressions is a very diabolic and treacherous, underhanded disease.

Due to some issues and stories in my life I am vulnerable to feeling depressed, too, a certain basic melancholy seems to be part of my character. I found it worthwhile to depend less and lesser on the agreeing, the opinion, the appreciation of other people. If them and me do match over issues, fine. If not, it does nto worry me anymore. This attitude makes you stronger, mre appreciating your own value instead of defining yourself by the norms and standards of others or society, and it immunises you to the popular beliefs and myths of modern life. The price is that while you get stronger in self-esteem, you also find yourself in a very isolated position. Many friends you do not win this way.

But it is better than to be pulled down by depressive or frustrated mindset when staying with false friends and people with whom you have nothing in common.

And it has always been my impression that neurotic depressions often are caused by conflicts arising when people excessively define themselves by the expectations and standards set by other people, instead of following their own reasoning about what is valuable and deer, and what not. This of course is irrelevant for psychotic depressions.

Try to live your own life in the way that you want, but follow the golden rule - and as long as the latter is true, give a damn on what others think about you. If you are being liked, fine. If not - so what?