Interesting calculator.
http://cgi.money.cnn.com/tools/costo...tofliving.html
350k here in ABQ would require 809k in NYC for the same lifestyle.
350k in NYC is like 149k in Topeka (similar at 151 for Albuquerque (only has rio rathole to compare, which is a suburb)).
150k is without question middle class in ABQ. Housing varies a lot here, so you can have a middle class lifestyle for well below 150k here, but you have to earn well above 150k to be in the really "high end" parts of town. You'll have a nice house on 150k in ABQ, but your neighbors might make half that, or twice that, literally next door.