[Skybird]

Bipolarity is a nasty thing, and you need professional help. By that I do not mean your house doctor, but specialists. Chemical intervention can help to ease the suffering, and should not be ruled out from all beginning, for some "principle reasons". I would even say it is a must.

I am sorry to say, but as far as I know there is no method known to "heal" it. But one can do some things to cope with the conseqeunces. The disease typically forms up during adolecense.

Without wanting to pressure you into something, i just say that that girl is in desperate need for close friends loyally staying by her and not leaving her in the dust.

I also want to remind that bipolar people can show remarkable talents and potentials if they get help in coping with the negative effects of their disease. Many people in arts and showbiz are known to have tendencies towards bipolarity. If they are lucky, they have loyal and good friends safeguarding them to not fall over the top in a maniac phase, and not to drown in blackness in a depressive phase. But have no illusions, it is an emotional burden you will need to learn to bear.

Check the health service environment in your country, look for centres and/or specialists specialising in treatement of affectional disorders, depressions, burnouts, bipolarity.

We should also be aware of that in a very very mild form we all tend to be bipolar, for a normal fluctuation of mood and motivation is quite natural for almost everybody of us. It turns into a disease when the natural amplitude and frequency - for whatever the reason is - exceeds the normal limits and leads to extremes.

The disease most likely will change the nature and fundament of your relation to her. If she is really that dear to you, you will understand that she needs the experience of loyal friends not turning away, but serving a bit like a rock in the surf. I know that this is very difficult and demanding.

Bipolarity has many ways to build symptoms of other close forms of affectional diseases. Differential diagnosis can be very difficult and tricky and is nothing the laymen should believe he can do by reading the internet. Even many ordnary house doctors make many mistakes here, ay not even recognise the basic problem at all.

Please understand that in general in these forms of diseases you have a dramatically increased risk of drug and alcohol abuse, and a very high risk of suicidal behavior. You need to watch for that and control her where her own control fails. And this also can be very difficult to aquire, and can lead to conflicts.

You both need professional help. And ASAP.

Again, I do not wish to pressure you for this or that choice of yours, but I again say: the desperately needs somebody staying loyal by her, and take control where she cannot, and who does not shy away when the nasty side of her disorder, depressive phases, show up.

It is very very difficult to bear.

GET HELP.

Sorry that I have no better news or perspective, but the general prognosis is negative. I do not know how to put it any less harsh, so I just speak plain and direct.

P.S.
If you do not know about me, I am telling you all this as a former clinical psychologist. My mum is slightly depressive, and I worked for short time in a specialised hospital station for depressive patients, so I know what you are in for if you decide to not leave her alone. I do not envy you, but it speaks great compliments for you if you at least try and stay with her. If you find out that it is beyond your power, then it must be that way and nobody will call you foul. But I ask you really, please, at least try. She needs a loyal friend and family.