You know what, people come in all types, doesn't matter if they are homosexual or not. There are as many hideously ugly heterosexual people as there are homosexual, proportionately speaking. I have known more then a few women who were very attractive, lesbian, and not porn stars
As for the hatred devoted to homosexual males vs females. Frankly I think the real reason is that far more hetero men feel threatened by gay men, then hetero women are by gay women. That and many hetero males seem to find two women going at it arousing (providing of course they are really bi-sexual, and they could get in on it). Personally I have always been indifferent to it all (I am quite secure in my own sexuality).