At the risk of sounding stupider...
I don't think it's an issue of one group verse another group like Jutland with missiles.
There are some very complicated electronic, logistical, and command related issues you are neglecting.
The bottom line is that America can keep the Russians in port at all points if necessary. Russia can't do that to the US.
If the conflict goes nuclear then this is all a mute point, but short of total war, the Russian's simply do not retain the power projection capabilities that the US does.
No amount of fashioning paper tigers can get around that fact.