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Originally Posted by frau kaleun
[...] we don't even know about, he was one of those people who never wanted to be a bother to anyone so there may be a lot we just don't know because he didn't talk about it. Even the people closest to him didn't see this coming.
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Nobody ever really does see it coming, unless we're lucky enough in that the person actually does talk about what's going on. That stuff just builds up over time and certainly doesn't make life any better or easier, but that's just the way some of us are. We can't talk about our troubles because, well, let's face it:
everyone has problems and we should just buck up and quit being so selfish/whiny or whatever the excuse may be. It's a selfless act that in and of itself is actually very selfish; because in that struggle we forget (or simply ignore) that the people who know and love us really do want to help, no matter what it is that's bothering us. How else are they to know what's wrong with us unless we tell them? I don't even understand it myself, and that's where I've been most of my life. But there is certainly a self-destructive component to it.