Sorry for your loss Steve.
I could come out with a lot of clichés about death and loss and tragedy but the truth of the matter is that it didn't help me. I lost a younger brother a couple of years back. Time does not heal...nothing can heal the loss of someone dear to you. But time is what is needed to help come to terms with things. For myself I seemed to be able to cope with the loss...until I had to shave, or take a shower for example....the quiet moments. Then the thoughts come charging back. They still do. The pain. The anger. The guilt. The loss. The injustice. But the very fact that you use so much time thinking back and wondering 'why and what if' shows, that the person who passed away has left a lasting impression on you and the people around you. No bigger or grander monument could ever be built.
Looking at the replies you have got from people who may have never even met you, shows the amount of respect people have for you. I hope you can draw some strength from that to help you through this difficult time.
Look after yourself, Steve.
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