There are a thousand combinations , here is mine .
Now for the mods list and order .
These mods need to be in this order .
Accurate German Flags
RemoveLogoIntroTheDarkWraith
nVidia missing lights
Original map colors
Shadow Improvement Mod
lite
MightyFine Crew Mod 1.2.1 Alt faces
MCCD_1.04_MFCM_1.2.1_compatible (more crew commands by dialogue) you need this mod 
Speech fixes and additions (english version)
U-Boat Ballast Tanks SFX
Dynamic Environment SH5 Basemod (normal ) V2.1
sobers see thru wake fix
sobers_realistic_underwater_FX2
Manos Scopes-patch for 16x9
Trevally Automated Scripts v0.6
Trevally Harbour & Kiel Canal Pilot v2.8
MightyFine Less Annoying Footsteps 1.0
sobers smaller water drops V4
sobers 3D deck spray mod V7
Window_Lights_Redone_V1
SAS special abilities simplified V1 (MCCD) SH5
Wasserbomben_SoundFix_1.0
FX_Update_0_0_19_ByTheDarkWraith
NewUIs_TDC_6_8_0_ByTheDarkWraith
NewUIs_TDC_6_8_0_Patch 1
NewUIs_TDC_6_8_0_Real_Navigation
NewUIs_TDC_6_8_0_alt_officer_wounded_by_Torpedo
Church's Compass Dials Mod v2.1 - Option Two
TheDarkWraith_DC_Water_Disturbances_v2_0_SH5
IRAI_0_0_30_ByTheDarkWraith
TDW_No_Hydrophone_On_Surface_1_1_0
OPEN HORIZONS II_full v1.4
OHII v1.4 Patch2 Full
OH II Minefield map
OH II Campaign Radio Messages v4
sobers green crew training V3 SH5
Grossdeutscher Rundfunk
Sub_Exhaust_1_0_5_byTheDarkWraith
SubFlags_0_0_8_byTheDarkWraith
Unterseeboot II SFX
SteelViking's Interior Mod V1.2
SteelViking's Interior Mod V1.2.1 Patch
Carotio_IntercontinentalRadioPack