I remember having similar qualms when I first got interested in wargaming as a kid. Then I found out the vast gulf between any game no matter how sophisticated and the real thing. It's sorta like saying taking the black pieces in a chess game makes you in league with the "dark side". I'd be more worried about people who start to ape fanatical military behavior in real life than those who play a side associated with it. I think you'll find there are those crazies out there who have a "shoot the parachutists" attitude no matter what nationality they play in a simulation.
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