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Originally Posted by Betonov
Yes I see what pyschopat I have become because my father gave a slab around the ears when I was a brat /.../
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Well Betonov, you've put it better than I ever could and I have tried many times to present the same argument. You are right, there is a difference between beating a child up because not everything is right in your head and giving him a lesson. People are animals, children more so, as they do not have the knowledge of the causality of their actions. I'm not saying every single thing needs to be beaten in, far from it, the more they can learn peacefully, the better. Yet there are times, when only the hand/stick/belt talks and I'll be damned if I'll let anyone dictate what I can and cannot do. You wish to raise my child? Be my guest, come and take him and bother me no more! (This last was a gross exaggeration, I would never give up my own child, it was merely a presentation of principle).
Oh, and God forbid teachers can say or do anything to a child, or the parent's will have the headmaster barking at them in no time. Nowadays, the school system is supposed to both raise and educate them, but God forbid they try any of those two things. It was bad when I was growing up, luckily had my parents taking an interest in the well-being of their child. I wanted for nothing, but knew it was because I worked hard at school. Today, if the prevalent mentality seems to be "Give them what they want and they'll leave us alone for a while". So, in the end, it is the economy which is partly to blame also in this regard, as parents seem to be forced to waste their time surviving, rather than bringing up the next generation. Which begs the question, how did they manage when they had to work for more than 8 hours a day and had no or very little free time or holidays to take care of things? How did they manage indeed?