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Don't decide what to do based on what she may or may not do or say, decide what to do based on what you want
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Oh true, so true. I can't tell you how much time I've wasted over the years trying to figure out, adapt to, or make decisions based on whatever it is someone else says they want, instead of asking myself what
I want and what
I need and facing the hard fact that the two things simply aren't compatible any more.
In a healthy, committed relationship - of course you consider what the other person needs and wants. But in cases where the other person doesn't seem to know what he/she wants, or gives conflicting signals about it, or obviously doesn't want what you consider to be the bare minimum necessary to meet your own need for happiness and contentment... that's a different story.
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What the most important thing for anyone at your age to do is to learn to be happy with and by yourself.
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This is most important at any age. Until you figure this out, you'll almost always be at the mercy of the whims of someone or something else that you're counting on to be the secret ingredient that will finally make you happy. But the real secret ingredient is to get there on your own.
