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Originally Posted by Sledgehammer427
While I was away from home nonetheless. I saw it coming, as always, and as always I thought I could do something to fix it.
I don't want to explain anything, but apparently my psychological profile says I'm basically emotionally dependent on a girl. I just need some support, I consider you all my good friends and right now I could use some help.
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Hi Sledge. Right now you're at a crossroads. The next 12 months are going to involve a large series of changes. Your old friends are going to slowly slip away to be replaced by new ones. By next September, you're going to be in a new place, surrounded by new people who will see the world in ways that you have not thought of. Really, it is a magical time, and I mean that sincerely.
What the most important thing for anyone at your age to do is to learn to be happy with and by yourself. I know that this advice sounds quaint, like a Hallmark card, but I feel the advice is sound. We spend so much of our young lives being connected and dependant on the other that we become uncomfortable with solitude. True self-comfort will never remove the sting from love gone bad, but it will give you the strength to endure, and will serve as a platform to show off your best self, your most attractive traits. In other words, people are always the most comfortable with the people who are the most comfortable with themselves. This relationship was not the one, but you set the stage for that future connection.
Of course, Mrs. Takeda would argue that what I wrote was a load of nonsense and that I was a shallow, meager loser before she met me. She might be right, and she'll probably smack me if she reads this.