If you want your torpedos to stop detonating on CM's, then you might want to try Amizaur and my mod.
Also, the reason many features of torpedo control are not implimented, is because it would unbalance gameplay greatly in favor of the first shooter, as we saw with the torpedo feedback feature (a bonefide ability of the real-world ADCAP) which we were compelled to remove from the mod because of balance considerations.