With regards to getting to not getting the Dock at Kiel button during the tutorial, it's because you skipped the step in the tutorial it to teach you about Time Compression. You never completed the "plot a course to Kiel" objective though, so the UI is hiding icons till you do what you were told.
Here's basically how you're probably plotting your course right?
That's not good enough, notice the yellow mission objective icon is still under Kiel. So you plot a bit more...
Well, surely that's "to Kiel" right, I mean it's right next to the word!
Nope.. still not enough, plot more...
That's basically how far into Kiel harbor you need to plot to complete the objective that unlocks the TC controls for you. Plot to there, then it'll open up the missing UI elements.