Sounds like the booze binges and coke flirtation is a cry for help. "Look at me, my loneliness is forcing me to do bad things and self-destruct. Someone who cares about me, please stop me."
Problem is, what can you do? He's not likely to listen to you, is he? If he is a Christian, he needs to get more involved with his church ASAP. He needs the support system they can give him, and he needs to get ahold of himself. Especially if he has a kid, what kind of example is that setting?
The unfortunate reality is some people are not strong enough or mature enough to endure hardships without falling apart like this. If he was my friend, I would lay it out for him and support him: Look buddy, this has to stop right now, I will help you only if you cut that crap out.
Also, if you have only known him 8 months, he's not a lifelong friend, and from what you say, he has "slipped up" once in the last year. Not good. I would be wary of getting dragged into a serious situation I have no control over.
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