Basically are you Clark Gable or Burt Lancaster? IMHO Lancaster was far too chummie with the crew in RSRD, and Gable far too remote.
Jurgen Procnow was my model Sub Captain so I will be sitting with my Officers off watch, my sonar man durring approaches and in the tower in isolation durring attacks, much like I do now. But in SH5 Ill also check in on my machine room regularly, try out the soup, but Ill generally stay out of the torpedo rooms-- those guys are animals.