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Originally Posted by AVGWarhawk
I understand your view of antiquated but with children working the 9-5 for the parent while the children are in school is fine however there is after care and transportation for the kids. School lets out at 3 pm. What are you to do with your 8 year old. Latch key kid? No, that can not work at that age. Dad does not worry about kids when his job is concerned. Also, are you to take the kids who lived in a nice home and then have them dumped in some place of squalar because that is all mom can afford? Then there is the emotional toll of the kids that mom has to deal with. My two nieces are seeing a specialist because of this divorce. Mom gets the bill and rest of it. Meanwhile dad is in NJ with a new place to live and an illegal screw doll. He just purchased $7000.00 for furniture. Mom, meanwhile is cleaing soiled undergarments and cleaning up puke from a sick child. Also, since dad is paying CS he gets the write off on taxes, no? In all reality dad can go deliver pizza and pay his percentage on that as CS. Also, if dad has such an issue with it, get full custody of the kids. What can I say? I know more deadbeat dads the ones that pay like ordered.
I agree though, mom does get to spend the money as she sees fit. It is just the way the system is and needs some changes for sure but in hindsight, dad can do what he wants and when he wants. No one to look after. Each case needs to be looked at an not cookie cutter law. If mom is the issue, infidelity, spending wildly, etc. Then she takes it in wallet and not the husband. Again, though, the law is to much cookie cuter and it get the same old stamp all divorces cases get.
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There is so much wrong with this I almost don't know where to begin
Since your sister is in Texas, I guess Texas family law applies....I have a little experience with that.
School lets out at 3 pm. What are you to do with your 8 year old. Latch key kid?
After school day care, until they are 12 or 13, that's what the rest of us do.
Also, are you to take the kids who lived in a nice home and then have them dumped in some place of squalar because that is all mom can afford?
Agreed, it's not fair to the kids. But can't mom afford an apartment? Does it have to be squalor? With or without kids, mom has to live somewhere.
My two nieces are seeing a specialist because of this divorce. Mom gets the bill and rest of it.
By law, dad has to pay have the costs that exceed insurance coverage, and he has to pay
all the insurance costs.
Also, since dad is paying CS he gets the write off on taxes, no?
Haha--no. Not at all. Mom gets custody and the tax exemption. You cannot write off any CS on your taxes. Who told you that?
In all reality dad can go deliver pizza and pay his percentage on that as CS.
You would think so, and in reality, any
married dad can deliver pizza too, if he chooses. But an divorced dad can be ordered to pay whatever the judge feels he is capable of earning.
There has been no money exchanged for alimony or child support.
Normally, the judge orders temp CH and spousal support as soon as the wife files. I thought she was getting alimony already?
Also, if dad has such an issue with it, get full custody of the kids.
Oh reallly!!
Sounds easy if you say it quickly. Seriously, even with unfit mothers, that almost
never happens. Mom gets custody, if she wants it. She gets to keep the house, because that where the babies live. And dad pays way over and above what it takes to fully finance the kids, (not just 50% of normal costs, where mom is expected to chip in her 50%, it's more like dad pays mom about 175% of what the kids cost each month) mainly because the state wants to makes sure that they don't end up covering mom's costs. That's the facts.
What can I say? I know more deadbeat dads the ones that pay like ordered.
What kind of company do you keep? I have heard of a few deadbeat dads, but they're serious screwups who cannot hold a job. The normal men I know who are divorced pay CS as a matter of course.
I don't doubt your sister is the injured party and her ex is a useless dick. That definitely does not mean that the way custody and CS is structured is fair or even beneficial for the kids. I think of the $140,000+ I've paid in CS and really regret I could not have made sure my kids had the benefit that money could have brought them.