[Skybird]

Possible answers to the question "Why?" count by the millions, count by all the many moments in a human's life per day that are unique and mean to him something else than to any other human on earth. And they all interact, work together or neutralise each other. An answer found by one person for a given situation, may be meaningless for another person.

Sometimes finding the answer to this question "Why?" can open a road to constructive help, either helping oneself, or somebody else. However, talking as an ex-psychologist here, the importance of understanding the answer to "Why" is overestimated. Knowing that answer does nothing in itself, and it must not necessarily form new options. On the other hand, changes in behavior and deeds getting done can be tried even without knowing the answer to "Why?". Psychobabbling you can undergo for many years, and it leads you nowhere than to your intellect f#cking itself and feeling gay that way. What is really important for people is that they come to their senses that are beyond their thinking, and are of far more basic nature than thinking. And most people are running around with too many ideas and thoughts about and images of themselves anyway.

Focus on the obvious, guard your family, and do what is available to you in measures to safeguard the children you mentioned.

Keep an eye at that women, but keep your distance, and keep your family distant from her as well. Not before a real opportunity arises, you should consider to get engaged in some constuctive endavour to help. But that window of opportunity cannot be opened by you just because you want it, or your wife does. The grip is on her side of the glass.