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Originally Posted by breadcatcher101
I have no friends I can talk with. I gave them up long ago when my wife and I married.
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That's part of my point, I just did not want to be blunt, and I do not know you and your social living conditions. It seems to me that that woman of 26 - maybe is just the smaller of your current issues. Maybe she is just something like a hint pointing at the real big story in your life that eventually has not so much to do with her at all. Sometimes it needs an earthquake to make people aware that the place they are in is not as solid as they previously thought.
Try to see things from a different angle. A city's profile looks very different if watched from the north and then from the south, and then the West and East. So take a walk, metaphorically, and pick another time of the day than suual when you are walking, so that the light of day is different, too. You may see features in the silhouette you were not aware of before. It could be that maybe you are currently too fixiated on that woman - for the wrong reasons. Maybe romance has not half as much to do with it as you now think.
And if I may say that: consider to consult a counselor specialised on couples and relation issues. Alcohol is a story that only very, very rarely gets told to a good ending by people trying to solve it all by themselves. Find help. Inside yourslef you already know that - that's why you have asked here in this forum, in public.
Now I start sounding like some smartass. I'm sorry. I stop here. Just get up and find another real face to talk to. Start increasing again the number of options available to you. That is key.