I thank you for your input.
Contact, you raise a very important point. She has no idea of my assets I don't think. We work together both making very meagar wages. I lost a good job the way others have lately and this is all I can find at present, so as far as I know she only knows I am in the same boat as her as far as money. Still, this has been in the back of my mind, just one of the possibilities to be aware of.
Another thing, we are both married--although of course not to eachother.
My wife of 17 years has been hell for me the past 7. She doesn't trust me, thinks I am running around, and during that time we have not been "close". I have always been good to her, have never cheated, never even asked another to lunch yet to contantly get accused of it has caused me to drift away from her throughout the years. I deserve better and after the last time she did that I said to myself the next time I met some one who I have strong feelings for I would let myself go to her. Seven years is a long time to go without being loved, without feeling the touch and tenderness of love.
Presently my 26 year old friend and her husband are apart, his drinking and all she can't stand, stays out at bars all every night. I have asked around and it is fact.
I am not sure, but I think us going out to lunch would be ok. I wouldn't feel guilty about that. When it leads to more--if it does--then I will not go there as long as my wife and I are together. The wedding vows we took I take very real and I am not going to love another in that way until I have my present situation resolved. She drinks, as well, part of the problem, refuses to get help. I drink some, a 6 pack will last me 3 months, a 12 pack last her a night.
I don't look my age, no grey hair and very often I get carded when I buy my wife her beer. Good genes, I suppose.
If anything I sometimes think the only reason she is hanging around is to get all I have should I die, which is considerable. She is the only one in my will as I am in hers but she has nothing of her own.
For my recent birthday my wife gave me $100 of "our" money and told me to buy something I like. She doesn't work, only I do.
My 26 year old friend bought me a Dr. Pepper out of the machine at work although I know it probably set her back.
Somehow that Dr. Pepper meant more than the $100 as she didn't have much to began with. I noticed later in the day she didn't buy her one at break.
Once again, thank you for your ideas and thoughts, I really don't know what lies ahead, but I will go "with what my gut says". It has kept me alive this long.
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