[Skybird]

Nonsense. It seems I am just much more aware than quite some of you folks that problems like growing civil unrest and violence and mobbing amongst jueveniles, school shootings as well as coma-drinking, breaking marriages and drug consumation, just do not fall from heaven to earth, but have causes and aorigins, and the major key issue here is the fialing of tradiitonal family structures, and a mother and a father giving a home to their offsoprings that they have thrown into the world. and that this is failing, also has causes again, that range from charcteristics of the industrial age and working conditions, to the replacing of ethical values (whether it be in form of religions or not) by orientationless materialism. Now without doubt I will be accused of dramatising, nevertheless, I see this a bit from apsychologist's background who has focussed on family and systemic therapy, amongst others.

i am also am totally pissed by today'S tendency that is so very much en vogue today, to relativise all and everything until nothing is loeft anymore that makes a difference between the one and the other quality, category, meaning, person, whatever. Modern culture is a culture of lacking differentiation, and throwing everything into one kettle and stirr it until it all is just one and the same grey featureless mass. and this bull**** then gets celebrated as tolerance or multiculture and how democratic we are that all and everything is just one and the same in worth. I newver believed this kind of crap. Equality to me means not declaring that every Peter and every Pauls is as important than every Newton or every michelangelo, and we can safely assume that without quite some losers living in our societies, both under the bridge and in the ruling villas of the elties, we would all be better off for sure. i also refuse to subscribe to an attitude that could be described as "all party in my life, and when I am dead, after me the great flood." That institutions like family and marriage have fallen apart, and have been destroyed to wide degrees, does not mean they are less important. It means that a lot of sopcial probelms and cultural problems of today are triggered by this former destruction, and that it would be important to strengthen them again, insbtead of saying "it'S all just going to hell anyway, so let'S not care if contirbuting to it myself, it all does not matter anyway." It does matter, and defending it in your everyday life against people who you directly meet - that is the real meaning of man being a zoon politicon, not this infantile party nonsense. And if I would not try to make the world a slightly better place by trying to convince those people I meet in my life, and would reject even this most basic poltical responsibility everybody cannot avoid as long as he lives inside a community - what would that say about me? Nothing I would find pleasant, I'm afraid.

regarding "partnering" and "marrying", of course it is more than just to terms for the same thing, for it is not the same thing. Certain benefits of marriages, financial for the most, that are last but not least meant to help families and reiterate their special status and special imp0rotance for the whole, I reject to accept for partnered couples, like I also reject to give them to singles like myself. Becasue if all are given these special protection/boni/helps/whatever, the status of families no,longer is any specially protected, and recognised to be of a prioritized importance. This weakening of it by relativising it when giving others the same status and boni like married couples and families, i do not accept - last but not least becasue the idea of the family already is so massively damaged that most families today run a higher risk to fall victim to poverty, than singles and unmarried couples anyway.

Our societies in the West are a mess, and that we have let down our most basic social core-cell that much, has something to do with that. And all you guys are thinking about is how to destroy it even more - in the name of some almost hysteric illusions about "equality" for everybody, and declaring each and everybody as valuable as anyone else, and not wanting to see that in our culture (hell, in almost all cultures on the planet) marriage has somethign to do with forming a family, with children born by the parents that married. That is where the focus is: family protection. We failed miserably in that, and it has helped to bring down our culture very much. The disfunctionality of the social institution called family is the most underestimated central cause of why we have allowed our world and our civilisation to fall apart that much.

People are not equal, and people are not equally important for the whole. Saying that is politically uncorrect, that is not considered to be noble, so crucify me, but you will not get any other message from me. To declare every individual being the navel of the earth is one of the great sins our culture has committed. And it costs us dearly. And in practice, we have allowed our noble ideals being hollowed out for materialistic reasons anyway, and at our courts, the demand for everybody being equal before the law is all nice and well, but hardly is being followed.

Do not discriminate a human being for being "just" a woman, or a homosexual, but understand that this does not make everybody "equal". Let people live in forms of partnerhsips as they want, but understand that some of these partnerships are unimportant for the whole community, while others are indispensable for the community and thus it cannot afford to not give the latter special rights and support without damaging the community wellbeing in general. Cut back the many exceptions and special rules to the laws, so that after all this bureaucratic confusion laws get something to do with justice again, and let everybody, no matter the ammount of money he can invest in his army of lawyers, be equal before the law indeed, so that justice no longer is an issue of bureaucratic rules and personal wealth.