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Platapus · 04-24-09, 10:21 AM

I was always one of the biggest kids in my schools. I think I was 6'1" by age 5 it seems

Being the biggest kid, I was constantly picked on and bullied. It was not fun and I can understand how this can drive a kid to take extreme measures.

My father, gave me the advice to "fight back". His reasoning was that once you stand up to a bully, they will back down and not bother you again.

My father was mistaken. Like many adults, he was subscribing a logic to the bully that bullies simply don't have. Kids do not act/react like an adult!!!

I stood up to my bully. We had a fight and like every fight, both of us lost. My father was partly correct. After that the bully never bothered me again....alone.

The day after the fight, the bully and two of his friends beat the crap out of me. After that the three of them continued to harass and beat me.

What makes adults think that a bully is going to take a beating and suddenly decide "oh wow, what I was doing was wrong, I won't do that again" Bullocks!!

Bullies bully because they want to exert power over someone. A "fair" fight aint gonna change that. All they will do is get some of their friends and beat the crap out of you.

I have heard other adults advise me that I should have gotten two of MY friends and beat the three of them up. I honestly don't understand what happens to adult's brains when they "grow" up.

If I did that the bully would have gotten five of his friends..... and ultimately one of us would run out of friends or someone would get seriously hurt.

So no, based on my experiences, standing up to a bully accomplishes nothing and can result in worst treatment. Logic and reason do not apply to kid bullies!

I wish I know what the "solution" to the bully problem is. I am afraid I don't. I don't know if bullying is getting worse, the it seems to be getting more cruel and violent. It is a terrible problem and one that adults need to solve. You can't expect kids to solve this problem.

Maybe standing up to a bully in a "fair fight" worked for some. But in my school, it just got you a worse beating. But then I was in a big city school. Perhaps the type, size, and location of the school makes a difference?

04-24-09, 10:21 AM	#2
Platapus Fleet Admiral Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 19,362 Downloads: 63 Uploads: 0	I was always one of the biggest kids in my schools. I think I was 6'1" by age 5 it seems Being the biggest kid, I was constantly picked on and bullied. It was not fun and I can understand how this can drive a kid to take extreme measures. My father, gave me the advice to "fight back". His reasoning was that once you stand up to a bully, they will back down and not bother you again. My father was mistaken. Like many adults, he was subscribing a logic to the bully that bullies simply don't have. Kids do not act/react like an adult!!! I stood up to my bully. We had a fight and like every fight, both of us lost. My father was partly correct. After that the bully never bothered me again....alone. The day after the fight, the bully and two of his friends beat the crap out of me. After that the three of them continued to harass and beat me. What makes adults think that a bully is going to take a beating and suddenly decide "oh wow, what I was doing was wrong, I won't do that again" Bullocks!! Bullies bully because they want to exert power over someone. A "fair" fight aint gonna change that. All they will do is get some of their friends and beat the crap out of you. I have heard other adults advise me that I should have gotten two of MY friends and beat the three of them up. I honestly don't understand what happens to adult's brains when they "grow" up. If I did that the bully would have gotten five of his friends..... and ultimately one of us would run out of friends or someone would get seriously hurt. So no, based on my experiences, standing up to a bully accomplishes nothing and can result in worst treatment. Logic and reason do not apply to kid bullies! I wish I know what the "solution" to the bully problem is. I am afraid I don't. I don't know if bullying is getting worse, the it seems to be getting more cruel and violent. It is a terrible problem and one that adults need to solve. You can't expect kids to solve this problem. Maybe standing up to a bully in a "fair fight" worked for some. But in my school, it just got you a worse beating. But then I was in a big city school. Perhaps the type, size, and location of the school makes a difference? __________________ abusus non tollit usum - A right should NOT be withheld from people on the basis that some tend to abuse that right.