Hmm ok think you guys missed the point, im not trying to get a game to play on both monitors, but use the big monitor for gaming, while using the laptop's monitor to keep track of other stuff.
The problem though is you can't do it with the game full screen otherwise it will task switch and the game will minimize (or crash out, or freeze the system). Problem though is I hate running games windowed. So I was looking for a solution where i could use the laptop's display with out crashing the game in full screen
Interesting idea Arclight, but I dont think it would work as you would still task switch to the vm software running the vm. Also i dont know if there is a way of running multiple controls (2 keyboards and mice) together as separate input devices off one machine.
So far the only answer i found from digging around was
http://www.playxpert.com which injects directx based windows into games. it lets you use im, surf the net, handle team speak etc, with out dropping out of the game. Theoretically it may be possible to drag the windows it uses in games over to the other monitor (Which is showing the desktop) and thus interact with them with out dropping out of a full screen game, and with out the windows cluttering up the game display.