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Old 01-12-09, 06:26 PM   #14
Kapt Z
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Originally Posted by Kapt Z
Who wouldn't be pissed at the ex! That being said 16 years is quite a relationship parent/child. I could see it if the kids were 16mos... but to try and cut off their funding after 16 years? He's still their dad even if he is not the actual sperm donor. Since his ex doesn't know who the 'father' was I suppose the courts felt their hands tied.

I'd want a darn good lawyer to verify that the payments were being used for the kids' needs not the ex's. That would be my biggest issue. And LOTs of visitation rights.
First of all, there's a very good chance that the father isn't going to be able to continue a relationship with the children. That being said, why should he be forced to PAY for those children when, all that really is doing is shifting the financial burden to him from the mother?

He should be able to choose what to do, here.
I guess I was looking at it from the perspective of being a father myself. I couldn't imagine terminating a relationship with my daughter after loving her and raising her for 16 years just because I found out now she was not my 'real' daughter. I'm sure the relationship would be 'different', but I'd still love her and want her in my life.

Now maybe this guy had a crappy relationship with the kids anyway so that's a whole other deal.

I would hope the courts would give the mother more flak over not knowing the name of the 'father'. He or his relatives should bear their fair share certainly. In the end though it sounds like the court was pretty much saying, "16 years is a little late for the paternity test, pal."

I'm sure he could continue to appeal. Legal fees know no ceiling.
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