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Castout 08-20-10 05:22 AM

Iraq war vet kills pregnant wife and daughter before turning the gun on himself
 
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100820/...amily_slayings

:-?.

Lives wasted. What could have triggered it?

frau kaleun 08-20-10 07:54 AM

Well, PTSD would be high on the list of possibilities.

Very sad.

Platapus 08-20-10 07:58 AM

Tragic. :nope:

SteamWake 08-20-10 09:09 AM

Its' Bushs fault... :doh:

Sorry...

The VA is struggeling to cope with these types of disorders and frankly not doing a very good job of it. The number of soldier suicides outweigh the number of 'combat deaths' by nearly two to one.

http://www.i-am-bored.com/bored_link.cfm?link_id=52049

Jimbuna 08-20-10 10:17 AM

A sad and senseless waste :nope:

Moeceefus 08-20-10 12:24 PM

These type of tragedies happen quite often and in most cases, the offender has no military history. I cant say there is no connection here with PTSD, but it seems unlikely.

Platapus 08-20-10 02:42 PM

If some guy want's to bump himself off, that should be his right. But I simply can' understand this "taking people with you" attitude that seems to be common (or at least reported more)

OK, your life stynks, go ahead and pop your self if that's the best solution you can think of, but other people's lives may not stynk, OK? :stare:

jumpy 08-20-10 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by SteamWake (Post 1472555)
Its' Bushs fault... :doh:

Sorry...

The VA is struggeling to cope with these types of disorders and frankly not doing a very good job of it. The number of soldier suicides outweigh the number of 'combat deaths' by nearly two to one.

http://www.i-am-bored.com/bored_link.cfm?link_id=52049

That's a very harsh statistic. I bet most of them (if not all - not necessarily because of the disparity of men-women serving in the armed forces?) are men from the ages of 18 to 40 years old.

Some time back, I read an article that detailed the comparison between men and women in the UK who kill themselves.
It was the men who tipped the scales in finding absolutely no point in suffering with the seemingly un-ending despair that life and relationships have to offer. The suggestion was that unlike women, many males lack the support and intimacy with friends and family, and so when catastrophic change enters their life, they cannot cope or adapt to these new circumstances.

Personally I think it has a lot to do with what you see as being fundamental to your worth and happiness in life.
I can tolerate being alone, and in that sense I don't need anyone else to feel good about myself. But, I don't like it. Solitude has its place, but it does not allow you to grow as a person.

Humans are social creatures - if you take away the solidarity that exists with all human relationships, be they intimate or friendships, then the spirit will wither and die. Confine any animal (or human) to a solitary existence and they will eventually break.

I believe it is this same sense of isolation from those who you deem to be important in life that causes many people, who do not suffer a recognised mental health problem, to kill themselves. The isolation and loneliness is more than they can stand - be it a physical separation from people, or an experience that cannot be shared (or is believed to be so) with those who have not experienced the same.

As for what drives an individual to kill family members too... I think that's down to the personality. Speaking only for myself here, were it ever to come to that, I think I'd be more likely to harm myself than another. But without any explanation or evidence to corroborate or refute speculation, outsiders can only say - they must have been in a very dark place to feel that the action was needed, or that the normal strictures all of us possess had, for some reason, failed at that moment.

When you honestly believe your life has no value or purpose or future, what other choice is there, other than to end what you see as insufferable?
Of all the things humans must endure in life I think that is the most terrible and the most tragic consequence of self-awareness.
I also think that many who choose to kill themselves (and others) because of this, are more than likely, intelligent, articulate, compassionate and self-aware people.

I guess sometimes ignorance really is bliss.

Ducimus 08-20-10 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by frau kaleun (Post 1472503)
Well, PTSD would be high on the list of possibilities.

Very sad.

Why not call it Shell shock instead of PTSD?

Platapus 08-20-10 03:11 PM

Or battle fatigue?

The malady has been with us for a long time. :nope:

Skybird 08-20-10 03:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by frau kaleun (Post 1472503)
Well, PTSD would be high on the list of possibilities.

Right that. I would even would bet money on it, becasue probability is high if he is a vet.

I use to think of PTSD as sadistic, silent killer. It is like a virus having infested a system.

Very big problem it is, and despite recent rise in recognition it still is underestimated.

Ducimus 08-20-10 03:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Platapus (Post 1472874)
Or battle fatigue?

The malady has been with us for a long time. :nope:

I think Shell shock is better. I reference Carlin a lot, particuarly when it comes to language because i think he makes a good point. When it comes to this condition, he makes an EXCELLENT point. Shell shock, almost sounds like the guns themselves.

The language we use has toned the meaning of this condition under complete jargon. Say it to yourself: (or listen to carlin go through it.)

Shell shock!!
Battle Fatigue....
Operational exhaustion...
Post-Tramuatic Stress Disorder...

And now.... its' been reduced even further to an acronym.
PTSD.

With "Shell shock", you hear the words, and you can pretty much figure out the meaning without the aid of a dictionary or wiki. With PTSD, the pain of the condition is completely buried under jargon, which in turn has the side effect of people not taking it as seriously as they should, and vets not getting the help they need.

The Third Man 08-20-10 03:38 PM

How many times have we heard the same story in domestic violence scenerios which have no relation to the military? Many times. The effort to link the military to murder/suicide is based upon a flawed premise.

Aramike 08-20-10 05:17 PM

He killed his pregnant wife and daughter. While I won't rule anything out I also don't want to exclude the fact that he could have just been a nutjob, something that we sometimes fail to examine when it comes to veterans due to their service.

Aramike 08-20-10 05:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Third Man (Post 1472901)
How many times have we heard the same story in domestic violence scenerios which have no relation to the military? Many times. The effort to link the military to murder/suicide is based upon a flawed premise.

Exactly. Again, don't discount the possibility, but don't assume either.


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