There is a rather large difference in choosing a non-standard way of grieving the loss of your child and your example of federal and state illegal actions.

Strawman much? The two are nowhere near comparable since one is a perfectly legal act, while the other has been deemed by society to not only be strange and weird, but also harmful to the victims and illegal.

Do try to use a bit of commone sense once in a while.

Takeda, I am not lumping them together in any way regarding their contributions to society or the like. I am however lumping them together as a comparison of the fact that some people choose to do non-standard things or believe non-standard ways. If we need to make it more "modern" and less impactful, I can do that with the following:

Rick Santorum choose to grieve his own way, and for that he is ridiculed and called crazy. For many decades, society has ridiculed people who made choices to act in ways against the mainstream. One such group is homosexuals. It was not right to make fun of their choices to live their life the way they saw fit - especially if it was in the privacy of their own home. So why is it ok to do so to this man regading his personal choice to grieve in his own home?

Like that example better?