There is simply nothing that can be said to you that would not sound quaint or foolish. Please know that you will be in my thoughts over the course of your battle. My mother sucummed to cancer, so I understand your agony and that of your loved ones. It is my greatest hope that you will be well again soon.

read that with mouth agape.

sorry to hear it.

you will be in thoughts and prayers

Ich bin 39 Jahre alt. Eigentlich recht jung, aber habe gehöhrt das das ganz normal ist in dem Alter.
Niemals aufgeben, tja, da haben Sie recht. Anders werde das nich gehen mit diesem Fall.
Danke für Deine Worte. Jetzt im Moment bin ich shell-shocked. Weiss nicht was ich machen soll.
So viele Gedanken rennen im Kopf herum.
Ich bete zu unserem Herrn, der kann mir bestimmt helfen! Ich brauche Seine Hilfe jetzt.
Ich halte Dich am Laufenden. Danke nochmahls. :salute:



Thanks m8, did your friend go through chemo? How long for?
3 months is the minimum i have heard, and the fact sheet i linked earlier indicates that too.
Was there any weight loss? With him? The Doctors said that that is one of the side effects. But then i don't know what to believe, because in some people it makes them gain weight. That is due to the steroid tablet/injection.

Thank you Castout. Thank you for your prayers and kind words.
My mother is gradually getting worse.
The norm is nowadays that she sleeps until midday, she may get up before then and complain about pains and she says she has no hunger for food, so she goes back to bed.
It is a habit with her now. Repeating things often, loss of memory, not remembering what she said previously, or seeking words to describe something.
All signs of early onset of Dementia.
My father is fast coming to the conclusion that outside intervention is needed. He is not sure how to handle the situation anymore. She has lost a lot of weight due to not eating much anymore. Once that happens it is getting difficult.
I spoke to my Mother a week ago, and it was a harrowing experience, to say the least.
I was emotional but did not show signs of it towards her.
Inwardly emotional.
It really touches you when a loved one is slipping down a deep slope like this.


Good news sir! I'm happy it was a false alarm.
It pays to get things checked out doesn't it?

My God, that is young. But, great news for you and your wife!
Good on her. She's a fighter.

Yes, all wise words indeed. I have read a bit about the side effects of these powerful drugs and it doesn't sit well with me at this present moment.
One thing i am really mulling over is the possible increase of weight loss which can occur with chemo.
Heck, i am already skinny. I was very defensive in the consultation with the doctors and replied upon hearing that i may lose more weight: "well, at least i can get rid of this f'in beer belly then".
Blank looks upon remarking this.
The other thing is the hair loss.
My self esteem has been shot a fair few months ago now. Losing all this weight i'm sure i look sick too, so i guess the hair loss is the double whammy really for me. Yes i know it grows back but where i am going with this is that the Doc said today: what work do you do"? "Hopsitality management, restaurants mainly"? He said after us ddiscussing, or rather me saying that my work can go stuff themselves because the last thing i want to have to deal with is some clown complaining about a well-done steak, when it's well done. So, he said to me, after me saying that: "you can then step back, being the manager, and delegate"! I looked at him, not sure what he was attempting to do.
I said: "no f'in way, f that, i'm not running around with a bald head, skin and bones and looking like a freak"! He replied: "well you can think of it this way, you can advertise this to other men/people, you know, tell them to check themselves regularly etc etc".
I thought to myself: "yea right, i'm gonna do that, at my work place, whilst i work"! Idiot.
I don't mind educating people in relation to this but. But when i know that i have beaten this. First things first, right?
The whole consultation disappointed me because it was rather impersonal, it was quick and the Doc that read the report hardly made eye contact with me, when he was mumbling med terms, he made more eye contact with the med student in the room, who sat in, than with me.
I felt like calling out to him and saying: "hey listen Pal. When you are discussing a possible curtain closer with me, at least make freakin eye contact with me.
Anyways, i've rambled on too much.


Too all who have replied since my last post with best wishes and messages of hope and strength and prayers, thank you!
You all seem like really nice people. I mean that.
And i will keep you all in the loop.

I can only echo what others have said and add my own good wishes to it: stay strong, stay positive, you will be in our thoughts and prayers! Good luck to you, man.

Wow! I just got up and I read this. Cancer sucks, lost my mother & an uncle to cancer. 4yrs ago my brother in law had throat cancer, it was the early stages though we all thought Colin was going to die, he couldn't eat solid foods had to be liquid foods and being a roast mutton man he was terribly pissed off. He went through the lost of weight, hair lost, being sick a lot due to the chemo but at the end he recovered and is now back to his normal self & enjoying his roast dinners.:) Then early last year my other brotherinlaw was told by his doc he has colon cancer, he too recovered from it and he was late going to the doctors he probably wouldn't off if it wasn't for him collapsing while at work. They both have to have their check ups just in case the cancer ever returns though they both in good spirits.

There is still hope Feuer Frei! The doctors haven't given up on you so they must know there is still a good chance of you beating this cancer. I hope the very best for you man.

Try to stay positive.

Good luck man. Hope you beat it.

Ah the doctors, we had one doctor at radiation the fella I spoke of above, great guy he always encouraged and took care of my wife, an older gentleman and experienced doctor, but you could tell he still drew a line and knew not to get too close. But the others the younger ones, I could describe them just as you did yours. I know nursing staff who administer the chemo are always being watched and cautioned against getting too personal, it's hard not to, they are always being rotated out. It may be the case with your doctors they may be experts in the field of medicine but young and may severely lack in the human relations side of the job.


You sound familiar, my wife wasn't interested in becoming a martyr for the cause either. You're right first things first which is you. I suggest though you covet your life's routine and do everything you can to not let this affect it. Again I strongly suggest you find a group you have something in common with, they are out there.


Feel like rambling? then ramble on. I don't think anyone here minds and I for one encourage it.

I am very sorry for you.
Can I just ask you how big this 'lump' was? I have heard people I know say they had a lump in their scrotum the size of a pea,is this about right,and was there any pain or discomfort in the area,also,were there any other side effects that made you curious that something may be wrong here?
Best of luck mate,and for the future :sunny:

I hope for a speedy recovery, and that all goes well!

Stay strong. You'll be in my thoughts.

I don't know what else to add to all the above posts, other than, thank you for the warning - one that gets repeatedly ignored all the time, and really shouldn't.

Again, not the praying kind, but you are in my thoughts and have my sincerest best wishes.

I wish the best for you and don't ever give up hope; I've known a few poeple who have had cancer and have beaten it. I'm sure you will, too...

Hi !

Dann sind wir im gleichem Alter, ich werde im August 39 Jahre !

Bis Du Christ ? Ich ja, daher bete ich und tue das bitte auch ! ER wird Dir, so Gott will, helfen !!!

Ja, halte mich bitte auf dem Laufenden !

Alles Liebe und Gute,

Thomas:salute:

@ All: Sorry, I can this better express in my Mother-Language, therefore I write this in german words !

Every best wish for a positive and successful outcome http://www.psionguild.org/forums/ima...s/thumbsup.gif

The lump was quiete big, if you can imagine the size of half an egg. It was tender but no signs otherwise of pain.
I guess in relation to signs or symptoms it's hard to ascertain with me because i was losing weight and had a few other symptoms which i thought were all attributed to this tumour.
Dull lower back pains, hunger pains, 2 to 3 hours after eating a full meal, reflux.
All these symptoms still exist, even after the removal.
Which begs me to believe that the cancer cell(s) are still present.
The symptoms have not disappeared.
No weight gain, it's going the opposite. reflux still there. Hunger pains still there.
In relation to the size of a pea, it is important that any sign of lumps, anywhere, must be checked immediately by the GP.
Rather be safe than sorry, right?
Thank you for your well wishes.

Ich bin Christ Thomas.
Danke nochmals für alles.

And to all who have posted best wishes since my last thank you, i thank you.
I hope to hear from the Oncology Department today.

If you haven't got it might pay to get a cheap laptop with wifi, might come in handy, you'll need an internet connection with access to Subsim!!:yep:

I'm going to get back to you on this FF, I haven't seen him for a few years now and am not clear on the details, all I am sure about is that he is extremely fit now- he runs a diving business. He did tell me that he was visiting Thailand this month funnily enough, but in any case I shall get in touch with him and find out his story and let you know.:DL

Alles Gute. Die Hoffnung nicht fahren lassen!

[its not important if i dont know you ( even at the forums)], i wish you the very best and a speedy recovery and good support from people around you

This need not be scary. I had a cancer 8 years ago, a very aggresive bugger that grew overnight on my neck, when I looked in the mirror to combe my hair that morning I could see the thing sticking out, about the size of a mans thumb.

I have a very good friend who came to see me when he found out about this. We sat and talking for several hours and gradually my friend convinced me I was going to live, and I did I'm happy to say.

After I went through the operation, the chemo and radio therapy was over, for a reason I will never fully understand, I hit what I can only describe as a "high" it lasted about five years and in that time I excercised everyday by simple walking. I stopped drinking and smoking and concentrated on my health my staying within the "high".

I was 55 when cancer hit me, I forgot about work completely and stayed focused on living. The human Spirit is a wonderfull thing, but must be guarded. I walked away from everything and anything that demoralised or attemped to suck away my will to live, I hung on to "I believe I will live" which I kept telling myself as I walking everyday.

Survival rates have never been better and there is every likeyhood that your going to survive and lead a full and active life.