Sound advice from the Ancient Mariner.

For me I would say don't let yourself get wound up by this kind of thing too much, it's better to just 'get on with your life' ('your life' being the operative words). Plenty of other women will surely come your way in the future. Don't dwell on it as it's a waste of your time.

"but apparently my psychological profile says I'm basically emotionally dependent on a girl." Don't believe this for a minute! Who says? You know your pschological profile better than anyone else- you can be how you want to be, it's your choice. If you tell a woman that, they're likely to run a mile....

Alternatively book yourself a week in Bangkok!

Oh true, so true. I can't tell you how much time I've wasted over the years trying to figure out, adapt to, or make decisions based on whatever it is someone else says they want, instead of asking myself what I want and what I need and facing the hard fact that the two things simply aren't compatible any more.

In a healthy, committed relationship - of course you consider what the other person needs and wants. But in cases where the other person doesn't seem to know what he/she wants, or gives conflicting signals about it, or obviously doesn't want what you consider to be the bare minimum necessary to meet your own need for happiness and contentment... that's a different story.

This is most important at any age. Until you figure this out, you'll almost always be at the mercy of the whims of someone or something else that you're counting on to be the secret ingredient that will finally make you happy. But the real secret ingredient is to get there on your own. :up:

Tak nailed it here Sledge. You said you are going to college. A total transformation of what you know and what you used to do will take place. No doubt in my mind. As far as be recluse as you describe yourself....that will change in college. I too had a high school sweety but going off in two different directions changed all of that. After seeing my old high school sweety not long ago...IT WAS FOR THE BETTER! But all kidding aside...college was nothing short of friggin awesome for me. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. There was plenty of wine, women and song...along with classes but that comes with the territory. Brush your shoes off man...go enjoy!

I'm sorry to hear that, Sledge

AVGWarhawk's right. That should keep you distracted for a while:O:

Thanks guys, I've been doing a lot of reading to keep myself occupied

Time with a book is always time well-spent.

Good plan at the start, it passes the time well and the only sure fire cure is time. I haven't been in that position in a long while, but the last one was at the end of a 14 year relationship. I was at a complete loss in every way a person can be, but time fixed it.
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I can't add much to what Tak, Jumpy and Chad have already written/advised.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move onward and upward.....you owe it to yourself.

I wish you every success in your efforts http://www.psionguild.org/forums/ima...s/thumbsup.gif

So if today sucks we should just give up hope? I would have killed myself long ago if that were the case.

Some damn good advice on here. Hope things work out for you Sledge mate. :salute:

No because once you're 100% sure today sucked it's tomorrow already:O:

It in times like these one must ask. What would Dowly do?

Get your WWDD wristband today!

Don't worry to much Sledgehammer, your find someone else sooner or later. Stay pessimistic or is that optimistic:hmmm:

A pessimist is a man who thinks all women are bad. An optimist is a man who hopes they are. ~Chauncey Mitchell Depew :)

Yea sorry not much help if that was me i did be out on the bottle with mates - get drunk, have a ''why me" moment, deal with it, then move on.

Good thing, you'll be having such a good time at the subsim meet, you'll forget all about her!

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