P_Funk I have no problem with what you say, but the point of my post was absolutely not to prevent anybody from doing something out of the ordinary to get out of a "dull monotony", as you call it very fittingly.

It's just that most people have no first hand experience with real mood disorders, and they think all you have to do is just be normal again.

A similar situation happens to most of us when a person has a talent to do something very well (think of painting or mathematics) and that person tells us: look it's that easy, why can`t you just do it too?

Now why can`t you?

Good point. I found too that music helps me, and it should also be very good for one's intelligence, opening pathways and such.

Just make sure that it's no depressing music. :rotfl:

Im not sure if you can say Penelope has a mood disorder. (sorry for referring to you in the 3rd) I mean. I have felt very much the same way as her. Shes right around my age too. This is a tough age to be. One thing I noticed was I let myself fall into a stupor and not do much for a number of months. The few things that I did do I put all my hope and emotional self esteem into. So when this girl acted like a silly teen girl or when that friend turned out to be a douche it really dragged me down.

But I got a handle on it all by figuring out how to get my life moving again. Its different for everyone. And like I said, I don't know anything specific or clinical about Penelope. All I have is a generic message of unhappiness to work with. But its a common thread for teens.

I just know what works for me and a few people I know. No offense intended to you Explorer.;) And I'm not trying to say "just do this and you'll be better. Whats wrong with you? Its so easy!". I'm far from happy. I'm way to angst ridden and left wing to be happy. But I'm managing to find a way to be less down about it all.:smug:

Parliament Funkadelic is far from depressing. Its absolutely funktastic! Its a shot in the ass with a bop gun!

Good stuff P_Funk, no one can stay depressed with that music!

"Hey Penelope!" Cheer up we're rooting for you!

I think I know what you mean Pen.:yep:

I find that more often than not I feel the same way. It's not something that you can put your finger on or change something and suddenly all is well again. It's just 'there'.

My mood is up & down like a yo yo most days, it's not my diet, it's not my work, it's not my social life & it's not my health. The only solice I can take is that it doesn't last forever.

Everyone can't be 'up' all the time and if they are, meh, they're on drugs.:rotfl:

There is this 'stigma' these day's that says, 'you have to be busy, you have to be doing something, you need every minute of your day filled' to lead a happy & productive life. Bollocks!! The only thing you need to do is have some 'alone' time. Whether that is reading a book, watching the TV, listening to music, playing a game etc. It's called 'escapism'. Something that takes your mind off the usual hum drum of every day life and anything that might be playing on your mind.

I have found that most people who 'stress' about 'what to do next' or how to keep themselves busy usually find themselves spiraling further into depression, just from worrying about it.

There are two options here, first, find something that you can do while relaxing and that you enjoy. The second, well, there is a natural remedy for 'the blues' but don't offer it here or you'll have all these dirty sea dogs 'coming down on you'.....no not that:damn:....'coming after you'......not that either:damn: (well maybe;))......oh nuts!!! You know what I mean.:rotfl:

Until such time as you feel better within yourself, we are here for you.:up:

Take care.

Yes I think that is the root of the problem. The modern disease of not allowing youself to be what you are. Bending yourseld to resemble idealized images. People know deep in their heart the extent to which they are bored, lazy, but they are afraid to show it.

Ahh i always would wonder if your name really meant the P Funk from the band Parliament "Give up the funk" or an old favourite when discos were in :rotfl: was "Flashlight" by Parliament. Parliment was one of my favourite bands back in those days....along time ago:D

Oh you better believe that my name is the genuine article of funk. I love the P.

Who couldn't? George Clinton is basically responsible for any and all music worth listening to after 1975, with the exception of punk.

More fellowship with people doing whatever GlobalExplorer posted to do ...

If you fellowship (hang around) with complaining/lazy people ... They will turn you into a bird of a feather and you know what birds of a feather do?

Avon Lady had a good suggestion too, volunteer for something that really helps others ... this can change your entire life. I volunteered to help out in a convelesant home back in 1985 and another girl volunteered too.
She was about 22 years old and had just got off drugs and was in rehibiltation, but she had lost her little baby in the process.
Within nine months I saw her come out of her funk and she became a real live person again (she had been dragging feet), plus she got her child back.

See you had more friends than you thought, uh?

Penelope, all you got to do is run naked though the high street for a laugh. ;)

You first, STEED :up:

I did many moons ago, it really made me laugh along with a few others. :lol:

I suggest you start reading Schopenhauer in german. Once you have gone past the first chapter, anything else than continuing reading it will probably seem marvelous and bringing a new joy into life (Talking out of own experience;) ).

Nah...seriously...Avon Lady gave you the best advice IMO. My experience so far tells me that the times in my life I have felt better are those when I stopped thinking about myself and concentrated in making someone else happy. Egocentrism is too easy and gets you unnoticeably at first but then burns you completely. I feel more balanced and happy since I have my wife and our two sons were born. Feeling yourself unimportant in the life-chain and that your whole existence is dedicated to help those who come after you growing and finding their place in life is probably the best antidote against boredom. I'm not suggesting you go rushing out to get pregnant, but any activity that involves helping others will also help you.

My two cents for you:up:

WOW! Lots of replies I am shocked and touched! I wasn't expecting such a feedback! :D

Well I am really really grateful to you all and I read it all through. And lots of good advice, you see the real trouble is I just feel you know... unfullfilled, like you know I am afraid for what happens next.

But I do feel a bit better today, still I could be worse, my brother is pining terrible for this girl in work and he is really shy so doesn't know how best to make a move on her, so I decided to put me energies into helping him for now, phase 1, send a text to her tomorrow and try and arrange an innocent meeting, I know what I'm doing... I think. I'll either shove him to the promised land or I will doom him in the process but either way at least he will know instead of this ridiculous sitting around.

There is something else that could be bothering me, I have been holding onto a big secret of late, well, I am nothing like one of my friends, in fact, I am not 100% sure why we are friends we have nothing in common really, well, she is pregnant, only problem is, she is not sure which out of two men is the father of her baby. ITs just me, I am still a virgin and although I don't have a problem with that, I think if people in my life knew I was, they would have a problem with it when the conversation gets onto sex and things I always clam up because while its nothing to be ashamed of, its something that could get me mocked.

Anyway, feel better today. :)