mapuc
10-28-22, 06:07 PM
I will share with you a story from my life and which I this day can't understand how, because I have no education in psychology or similar.
Well let start our story.
We have a shop who is the cheapest in our neighbour town. It's placed near the water and on same street we have also a grillbar. You can approach this grillbar from the front or from back side.
I have done some shopping and decided to have a cup of coffee before the bus arrived.
I came from back side and when I turned around the corner I could see a man- Middle age I guessed.
He was sitting in the corner furthest away from the door into the grillbar, with a glas and half bottle of white wine.
I went in ordered my coffee and had a little chat with the owner and her helper.
Went outside and sat down on the bench-table which was bench-table number 2 where he sat on bench-table 1.
the ferry was on its way to dock, so I sad and watched as it approach the thing while it started to open it's mouth.
- I'm mourning then middle age man suddenly said-Since it was only us two I looked at him and said
- That's sad. and return to watch the ferry. watching the cars driving out from the belly of the ferry.
- My childhood friend died yesterday night-The man said
- Ohh that's terrible and I remembered starting to think what's worst-Losing your mom or your childhood friend.
He got up and started to walk-I though he was on his way to leave, no He came over and sat on the bench in front of me so we had the table between us.
Then he started to talk about his childhood friends and his sister which he hadn't heard from since years and she lived in Alaska with her husband.
I mostly sat and listern and gave some answers or asked questions now and then.
He talked about his and his childhood friends education with the Jægerkorpset(=Green Barets) and if it hadn't been for his friend he would not have passed and the same for his friend-They both passed.
Here I asked him- There has been some documentary about Navy Seals candidates who is trying to become a Navy Seal. Is the main education harder or similar.
He said: the different is like going in kinder garden and then take a jump to university.
I looked at my watch and said to him-I'm sorry but I have a bus to catch.
-Him: That's OK are you coming back again some day in the future ?
I'm here in this town 2-3 times per week and around same time.
I should perhaps say I met him first time early spring and for the next couple of month we sad and talked 30-45 min 2-3 times per week
-Well mostly it was him who did the talking and I was just listerning.
Then one day I sad and was drinking my coffee..hey wait a minute where is my friend.
I did not see him for a while, when I suddenly ran into him at the local turist shop..
He came over to me toke my right hand and shake it real hard-Thank you Thank you.
Now I was confused...thank you for what I said
Here is what he said: Do you remember when you saw me for the first time.
Me: Yes you were sitting in the corner by table one, with a half bottle white
wine and a half ful wine glas.
Him-What you didn't know was that I was thinking deeply about which way was the less painful way to commit suicide-Then you suddenly appeared from nowhere.
He continued-And you know what I did as you said I should I called my sister in Alaska and she cried when she heard it was me and guess what I have paid for a flight ticket to and from Canada. I'm going to meet my sister who I haven't seen for many many years and my niece and nephew.
He shake my hand once again and said thank you.
I did not see him until late winter the year after.
I truly hope you will be able to read and understand what I wrote-I have never been good in putting down a discussion into writing.
Secondly I'm not a psychologist. It's them who save life on those who are about to or thinking about committing suicide.
Markus
Well let start our story.
We have a shop who is the cheapest in our neighbour town. It's placed near the water and on same street we have also a grillbar. You can approach this grillbar from the front or from back side.
I have done some shopping and decided to have a cup of coffee before the bus arrived.
I came from back side and when I turned around the corner I could see a man- Middle age I guessed.
He was sitting in the corner furthest away from the door into the grillbar, with a glas and half bottle of white wine.
I went in ordered my coffee and had a little chat with the owner and her helper.
Went outside and sat down on the bench-table which was bench-table number 2 where he sat on bench-table 1.
the ferry was on its way to dock, so I sad and watched as it approach the thing while it started to open it's mouth.
- I'm mourning then middle age man suddenly said-Since it was only us two I looked at him and said
- That's sad. and return to watch the ferry. watching the cars driving out from the belly of the ferry.
- My childhood friend died yesterday night-The man said
- Ohh that's terrible and I remembered starting to think what's worst-Losing your mom or your childhood friend.
He got up and started to walk-I though he was on his way to leave, no He came over and sat on the bench in front of me so we had the table between us.
Then he started to talk about his childhood friends and his sister which he hadn't heard from since years and she lived in Alaska with her husband.
I mostly sat and listern and gave some answers or asked questions now and then.
He talked about his and his childhood friends education with the Jægerkorpset(=Green Barets) and if it hadn't been for his friend he would not have passed and the same for his friend-They both passed.
Here I asked him- There has been some documentary about Navy Seals candidates who is trying to become a Navy Seal. Is the main education harder or similar.
He said: the different is like going in kinder garden and then take a jump to university.
I looked at my watch and said to him-I'm sorry but I have a bus to catch.
-Him: That's OK are you coming back again some day in the future ?
I'm here in this town 2-3 times per week and around same time.
I should perhaps say I met him first time early spring and for the next couple of month we sad and talked 30-45 min 2-3 times per week
-Well mostly it was him who did the talking and I was just listerning.
Then one day I sad and was drinking my coffee..hey wait a minute where is my friend.
I did not see him for a while, when I suddenly ran into him at the local turist shop..
He came over to me toke my right hand and shake it real hard-Thank you Thank you.
Now I was confused...thank you for what I said
Here is what he said: Do you remember when you saw me for the first time.
Me: Yes you were sitting in the corner by table one, with a half bottle white
wine and a half ful wine glas.
Him-What you didn't know was that I was thinking deeply about which way was the less painful way to commit suicide-Then you suddenly appeared from nowhere.
He continued-And you know what I did as you said I should I called my sister in Alaska and she cried when she heard it was me and guess what I have paid for a flight ticket to and from Canada. I'm going to meet my sister who I haven't seen for many many years and my niece and nephew.
He shake my hand once again and said thank you.
I did not see him until late winter the year after.
I truly hope you will be able to read and understand what I wrote-I have never been good in putting down a discussion into writing.
Secondly I'm not a psychologist. It's them who save life on those who are about to or thinking about committing suicide.
Markus