I Have Lost My Wife And Soul Mate To Cancer

[THEBERBSTER]

Hello my friends.
It saddens me to tell you that my wife passed peacefully away at home at 17.15 on Tuesday.
She was diagnosed in February with bile duct terminal cancer after becoming jaundiced.
Although Lynnette had a stent fitted, it became blocked within a month and the jaundice came back and she looked like a minion.
From Monday afternoon she became bed bound and had a rough painful night.
On Tuesday morning the district nurse used a syringe driver to insert the drugs needed to keep her comfortable.
A cetheter was fitted and it drained away the fluid from the liver which was causing the pain from the night.

She was able to communicate with family and friends who came to say goodbye and by late afternoon drifted into a coma.
It would have been her 72nd birthday on the 23rd, we would have been married for 50 years on November 13th.
God bless you, your loving husband Peter

[Texas Red]

THEBERBSTER, I am so sorry, my deepest condolences. I lost a young friend to cancer back in the first grade. He was only 7.

We should treasure the time we have with our family members or any other person as they can be taken away from us tomorrow or right now.

I hope you are ok, THEBERBSTER.

[u crank]

Peter it saddens me to hear this news.

My sincere condolences to you and your family.

[Skybird]

My deepest condolences, I hope you have people around you that watch over you while you try to find light in this darkness that has fallen. And if you have the feeling your soul mate sails an easier ocean of light now - trust in that feeling and wish her a bon voyage, for doing so over time might help you to find back into the light as well. Just give it time.

[Catfish]

Oh no, this is terrible news.
Have no words, my deepest condolences to you, and your family.

[mapuc]

My deepest condolences

She will live on in your heart and in your memory

Markus

[Texas Red]

People say that a person is only truly dead once they are forgotten.
Keep her memory alive and she won't be dead, she is already dead physically, but not mentally.

50 years is a long time to be married. It must've been a healthy and very loving relationship.


She is in a better land now and is not in pain and is healthy and happy.

I will pray for you, THEBERBSTER. I hope that you recover and get back to life and you keep her alive forever.

[vienna]

My deepest condolences to you and your family. This is indeed very sad news. I hope you all will find solace in the memories she has given you and the love you have shared. Blessings on all of you and blessings on her soul...







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[Rockstar]

Breaks my heart to hear of your loss.

[Eichhörnchen]

What an awful shock, Peter... I'm so very very sad and sorry. Grief is the price we pay for love, so they say... but I can't begin to imagine it, old friend

[Onkel Neal]

Ah Peter, I am sorry to hear that. I hope you know what comfort your friends here can give is yours for the taking.

[Platapus]

So sorry for your loss.

[Commander Wallace]

Oh Peter. I am so terribly sorry to hear of your dear Lynette's passing. Truly, I'm at a loss for words right now. As Neal already said, you have many friends here to lean on at this difficult time. I hope you have that there as well. We are all a message away.

I will keep both you, Lynette and your families in my prayers.

Rest in Peace Lynette and may God's blessing be upon you both and your families.

All the best to you, Peter.

CW

[Armistead]

I am so sorry for your loss, but what a tribute of a life of love for so many years.

[August]

Please accept my sincere condolences.

[Eisenwurst]

Dear Peter.

I feel your pain. I lost mine to cancer 10 years ago. At first I thought I'd go crazy with grief, but friends were there.....and responsibilities, and it became "one breath after another, one step after another" and the years passed as they do.

I still miss her terribly and always will till we meet again in the hereafter. I see her often in dreams - sometimes VERY lucid ones too where we hold hands and talk about old times.

Cherish your memories, and I join with your friends here sending you heartfelt condolences.

Eisenwurst.

[Reece]

So sorry to hear about your wife passing away Peter, my deepest sympathies.:wah:

[em2nought]

Sorry for your loss. We lost my brother to cancer when he was forty-seven.

[sonicninja]

My sincere condolences and heartfelt sympathy to you shipmate.

[Jimbuna]

Words fail me right now Peter but you are both in my thoughts and prayers.

GOD BLESS

[HW3]

So sorry to hear of your wife Lynnette's passing Peter. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

[Buddahaid]

My condolences for your loss. Have strength and I wish you well.

[Bilge_Rat]

My most sincere condoleances on your loss.

[Kapitan]

My deepest condolences to you and your family for you loss

[Sailor Steve]

Peter;

I have no prayers to offer, but I will extend whatever small comfort I have should you wish to talk about anything. We often forget that our fellow sub-simmers are more than just print that appears on a computer screen. We have all lost people dear to us (my own dad died in 2012) and we all need comfort, or isolation from time to time. I hope you find what you need the most at a time like this.

[Klaus Von Ritter]

Peter,

I have only known you in your simming help on this forum only over the last couple of weeks and to think that in all of your pain at home, you were still kind enough to help idiots like me who have nothing to worry about other than modding their game.

Cherish the memories, stay strong and may she rest in peace.

Claudio

[AVGWarhawk]

My condolences to you and your family.

[iambecomelife]

Sincere condolences; my own family and I have suffered our own loss recently. No matter how much time we have with our loved ones, it never seems like enough. Although we haven't spoken much, feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

[Onkel Neal]

How are you doing, Peter? Was thinking about you this morning.

[Rhodes]

My sincere condolences.

[Cybermat47]

I have no doubt that the 49 years you were married were the best of her life. May she rest in peace.

[Urmel]

Dear Peter

I just found out about your great loss to your beloved wife Lynnette.

I am deeply sad even from a great distance.

My heart and all of LSH3 is with you!

Ariel and team send you love!

[Arnd Stuke]

Hello Peter,


terrible news. I know how you feel. My wife died twelve years ago.



My sincere condolences.





Arnd Stuke (Stoertebeker)

[Eichhörnchen]

I have no doubt that the 49 years you were married were the best of her life. May she rest in peace.

A lovely sentiment

[securytron]

I just found this and it has left me deeply affected.

We don't know each other very much but please accept my sincere condolences.

Both my mother and my aunt have had to deal with this terrible disease, the last one died at the age of 19.

At least you have been able to enjoy each other for 50 wonderful years.

A big hug and a lot of encouragement Peter.

[Jimbuna]

Aye, a bit too rich for my blood so account sent packing back to the Philippines.

Appreciation and thanks to those who reported the rubbish.

[raymond6751]

I know your pain. My wife passed from Cancer 20 years ago.
Nothing anyone can say will help. My thoughts are with you though.

[Commander Wallace]

I wanted to give a quick update.

Peter ( TheBerbster ) and I exchanged messages yesterday and he says he is doing well but the distancing thing is difficult for him..

Peter also said that he isn't in the forums right now but that he does check his messages.

Peter does so much in the forums and Subsim as everyone knows from technical assistance to welcoming new people here. Peter is one of the good guys.

Feel free to send him a private message if you like as this is a difficult time for Peter and I'm sure will be for some time to come.

Peter also wanted me to wish " all the nutters " in Subsim the very best. By nutters, I wonder if he meant Eichhörnchen (https://www.subsim.com/radioroom/member.php?find=lastposter&t=246089). :hmmm: