Trials of Life

[Herr-Berbunch]

I've been AWOL for a bit, sorry. The wife and I have decided to call it a day and on Sunday I moved back to dear mater and pater's - fortunately they have a caravan near Skegness that they spend most of the summer at, they've been back for a night to do a bit of washing and gone again.

The reason? I've been a bit of a git. A young lady and I have been in contact and the wife found a few texts - nothing bad in those other than the fact they were late night or early morning and whilst only a few words in each it implied that we were chatting by other means.

What does it mean for me? No idea. I thought our relationship was not bad, but not great, just middle of the road but since getting booted I've slept soundly, I've not shed a tear, and I don't want to go back. As for my daughter, I'm missing about 10 minutes in the mornings with her, but I'm seeing her straight after work until her bedtime and that time has become more involved - not just head in a book or staring at a screen (no offence to anyone currently staring at this screen!).

Any future with the aforementioned young lady? I doubt it, I think she was just a vessel to break the marriage.

I'm sure a lot of you here will disapprove, including me. I never saw this coming, and this isn't how I ever envisaged splitting (I don't know if I even did envisage splitting!). However, I'm sure Dowly will approve as she's a blonde, 24, 34GG. :D He can have a pic if he asks nicely.

On the up side, I've now got my parents' password for the WiFi so will be back on here with avengence.

[Oberon]

Approve or disapprove, we're all human. It's a shame that you and your wife have split up, but there is life on the other side. At least you've worked something out with your daughter, that can be the hardest thing in any break-up. I've seen two relationships go down the toilet, and trying to work out why is probably one of the hardest things about it, but it happens, the love goes out of a relationship and eventually the friendship isn't enough and things just drift apart.
I just hope that you and her are able to sort all things out amicably and able to go forward as best as possible.

[Herr-Berbunch]

I've seen the way she bent over backwards to be equal with her ex-husband, who was just an arse the whole time. I plan on being as equal, but without being the arse. At least with that relationship it was her that finished it, this time it's me, well technically it's her as she asked me to leave and said there would be no way back, but you know what I mean.

Thanks for your words Jamie, means a lot, I appear to have alienated most around here.

[Aktungbby]

wha...!!!YOU DIDN'T EVEN TRY TO TELL HER IT'S JUST A BLUE MOON THING!:woot:

[u crank]

Don't sweat it HB. It happens. It happens a lot. The best you can do is to remain on reasonably good terms for your daughters sake. Wishing you all the best.

Approve or disapprove, we're all human.

QFT.:salute:

[Betonov]

Sorry to hear that.
You know where to find me. I already gained trust about such matters from two other members.

[Herr-Berbunch]

Sorry to hear that.
You know where to find me. I already gained trust about such matters from two other members.

Ah yes, I remember you telling me. :03: Haha, just kidding.

Somewhere near Jesenice, flights in to Ljubjlana then just walk north till it gets a bit hilly. Need my passport renewing first though :-?

[Betonov]

Northwest though, just before the Ljubljana basin narrows into the upper Sava valley is a line of villages on the sunny side of a mountain range.

[CCIP]

Over time, I've realized that it's important to learn to accept that people change - but what's more, sometimes it's not just people but you that changes over time, and that's alright too. It's often a lot harder to notice that about yourself, and hey, if someone or something else helps clue you into it, I suppose that's a blessing.

We're just glad to have you around! :yep:

[Oberon]

Northwest though, just before the Ljubljana basin narrows into the upper Sava valley is a line of villages on the sunny side of a mountain range.

Just keep going until you see this:

http://www.gurkhabde.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/Untitled6.png

[Stealhead]

If you see Aussie SAS(or maybe Brit SAS in Malaya) in 1966 Vietnam I'd say its probably a good time to call it a night.

[Sailor Steve]

Wow, Tony. I've wondered where you've been. While sad, these things happen. There is no approval or disapproval, especially when we don't really know each other at all, as much as we might think we do. We make mistakes. Sometimes it's in the parting and sometimes it's in the getting together in the first place.

I wish the best for both of you, but most of all your daughter.

[Tchocky]

It's all in where you go from here and how you approach the next day. You seem to have your head well screwed on about it, so best of luck mate.

Ain't nothing wrong with a change.

https://planetabnormal.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/red-october1.jpg

A little revolution now and then is a healthy thing, don't you think?

[fireftr18]

Prayers from me that you get everything sorted out and things end up working well. Good luck with events. Be sure to stay close to your daughter, she's the most precious thing in your life.

[BossMark]

I sorry to hear that Tony, have a good shoulder to cry on if needed, and I am good for a pint or 3

[Red October1984]

HB, I know we barely know each other...but I'll say this and this goes for any members here who are in a rough patch. I'm here for ya, buddy. Anything I can do, just drop me a line.

Things happen and we move on. I'll be sending some prayers. :salute:

[HunterICX]

I too have been quite of the radar as the exact same thing happened but with my parents.

Living still with my parents at the age of 28 isn't something to be proud off but well with no partner in life yet I have no reason to live on my own as I quite value the family home. This ofcourse was thrown upside down after my dad admitted to have feelings for another woman which I call a slut for the lack of better words as she dared to call my mother her best friend after she took her into our house after being kicked out on the street by the abusive partner she had a relation with and was without a job, nor money and not a place to live. after 6 monhts in our home she managed to get a job and her own apparment but decided to take advantage of the stale state of relation between my parents and attempted to pry my father away by toying with his feelings. Which my ofcourse came apparent 2 days after my 28th birthday as he admitted to my mom he had fallen for her.

My mind just shot blank and couldn't understand nor wished too. I've never been so angry at my dad, dissapointed in life and saw everything my family worked up to after having moved to Spain to mean absolutely nothing anymore. It didn't stop there it all struck my mom the hardest which caused her to attempt to commit suicide by swallowing about 15 Lorazepam pills which in case of a OD could result in a state of Coma or Death. Luckily, she was foolish enough to add the drama of saying she doesn't want to live anymore to my dad before she struck the phone down and I was called by my dad to race on home to check if she really ment that she would commit suicide. When I got home she was in a state of passing out with a package of Lorazepam which I knew was new and was now half empty. I called the emergency service and with the help of her brother who was with us as for a brief holiday we managed to keep her awake till the ambulance arrived which rushed her to the hospital.

Mentally after that it felt like someone shot a bullet through my head. I couldn't think straight nor clear but was well aware what caused it and that something had to be done but was reaching my breaking point. Luckily my sister came over from Mallorca and my brother also visitted more often to talk some sense in the two and take some of the burden off me by looking after our mom. I was well aware of the stale state of the relation my parents where in for a few years was going to meet an end as it worked like acid, both digged in their work and spend effort in anything but what's going on at home between the two. Also the slut who my dad fell for had two faces of which everyone knews but my dad still had the pink specs on who didn' see it. She would say one thing and behind your back do the exact opposite, she probably already had half the town where she lives currently between her legs whilst she was toying with my dad's feelings, way to much make up which makes her a horrofic sight to see in the morning and tatoos that makes you wonder if she thinks she's still 20. I could live with the fact that one of them would and could fall in love with someone else...but at least someone that achieved something in life and with sense of morals and values...not some merry go around slut that's just a pleasure seeker who smiles in your face while she stabs you in the back.

Anyway to wrap this up many days, many talks all together or 1 on 1 resulted that at least it's being worked on between the two, it still is very fragile as there are good days and bad days and it could be all over if both of them slip in the same behaviour as they where in before this happened.
So I still predict a long and probably difficult road ahead but for now we must focus on making sure in the best of our abilities it doesn't glide back into the old situation.

As for me I'm still shaken and in a gloomy mood, dropped many things I kept myself busy with but am slowly picking it up piece by piece, had my moment where the anger outburst resulted in a hole in the wall, at times I'm angry at my dad and dissapointed in both my parents for letting it go this far.

anyway, it's not usual I post this level of privacy onto a public board but after having stumbled on this thread I decided I could add a different perspective in a family situation as this and so I did.

[Jimbuna]

I appear to have alienated most around here.

On the contrary Tony and certainly not those that matter.

I've read quite a few pearls of wisdom on this thread and won't attempt to add anything more but suffice to say...we have met on more than one occasion in person (I'll not mention the sharing a room part :03:), you do have and have used my mobile number in the past should you feel the need to use it and we are not a million miles apart.

Take time for some quiet reflection and work out a coping strategy that is beneficial to both of you and especially your daughter.....Oh, sorry, I said I wasn't going to do that :doh:

Chin up mate, it'll all come good in the end :sunny:

[Jimbuna]

I too have been quite of the radar as the exact same thing happened but with my parents.



Sorry to learn of this Wim. It's at times like this I wish I was still hosting the GWX server for TS etc. like in the old days.

One thing I will say if I may....It is good your parents have their family around them to help support them during troublesome times such as they are unfortunately experiencing now :sunny:

[Herr-Berbunch]

Thanks for your words and thoughts guys. :salute:

BossMark - You're only 80 miles away, and I'd love a drink or three, but we'd end up on politics and that'd never be good for either of us. :D

Sheesh, Wim! Sorry if this thread ripped open some raw recent memories for you. Consequences are given little thought above immediate actions. Your SubSim family are here if you need us, they've come in handy for many here.

[HunterICX]

Thanks Jim & Tony :salute:

Already made use of the Subsim family, can't thank Jamie and Anze enough for being there when everything around me seemed to have fallen apart, the advice they gave and the conversations till the early hours.

[Oberon]

Not a problem mate. :salute: Glad to be able to have been there. :yep:

[Betonov]

Well, Hunter, it was mostly billateral and was usually about redheads :haha:

[Herr-Berbunch]

Well, Hunter, it was mostly billateral and was usually about redheads :haha:

:haha: You and redheads, maybe you should pick a different colour?

[Betonov]

:haha: You and redheads, maybe you should pick a different colour?

I picked a dark brunette with lovely boobs and an ass that can be on the world heritage list of natural landmarks.

Same result :/\\!!

[Commander Wallace]

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I'm sure a lot of you here will disapprove, including me.
On the up side, I've now got my parents' password for the WiFi so will be back on here with avengence.[/QUOTE]

No disapproval at all. Things happen and people usually work things out and stronger than before in the end . Most important right now is your daughter.

Better days are ahead

[August]

If you see Aussie SAS(or maybe Brit SAS in Malaya) in 1966 Vietnam I'd say its probably a good time to call it a night.


If he's back in 1966 he has no time to waste! He has to get right out to Vegas and bet on the Orioles to win the World Series, Green Bay to win the NFL championship and a host of other sports events and lotteries to bet on. :)