My wife...one of these days.

[Armistead]

A few months ago we purchased a farm house to remodel. I've done a lil work, but found a small house for sell near it that I want to buy and move in, so I can be close to it, instead of all the driving. I can get it cheap and put little money into it and told her we could rent it later or sell it. The house is owned by a old widow lady that is ready to dump it, for sale by owner. I offered her a low ball figure, not expecting her to say yes.....she did.

The issue. This house was the home of a beloved member of this small community that ran a flower and gift shop for years. My wife was good friends with her. Sadly, two bums decided they needed money and robbed the lady, then kidnapped her, took her to the woods, tied her up and shot her to death back in the 90's.

My wife said she wouldn't feel comfortable living there, but she went and looked with me and agreed it was a great price for a fixer upper and would be perfect for our situation for the short term.

The old lady showing it made a mistake, but just being old honest, said she didn't think the house was haunted as people said. Anyway, we liked it, told her we would decide this weekend.

We got home, my wife got on the internet searching and that day in our news was a article on one of the ladies murderers being denied early parole. For some reason that gave my wife bad vibes. I told her it was a good sign and she was being silly. I told her the lady that was killed would be honored to have her living in the house. I don't believe in ghost, nor does my wife really, but I explained that if she was ghosting around, it would be fine with me and I'm sure she would look over us. Understand, I'm just trying to deal with silliness, so I'll say anything.

I don't believe in bad vibes for no logical reason, hate to pass on a wonderful deal. This morning my wife said she didn't want to move there. I told her I was going to buy it. The problem is if we move in, I know it will make her uncomfortable, but she is being irrational. I know if that old lady selling it offers the same selling number to someone else, the house will be gone.

[soopaman2]

My wife made me quit drinking...

I wish I had your problem.:D

All jokes aside, is it worth trying to flip the property?

I dunno how the economy is in your neck of the woods, but up here if you add a bathroom and finish the basement, you are into money, even in this crap market.

I cannot offer any wife pacifying tips, once a woman decides she is right, you are always the loser.

I feel your pain, but you can put your foot down, or say yes dear and muffle the resentment.

Damn I need a drink....:timeout:

[AVGWarhawk]

Got to go with the wife's decision on this one. Many women have feelings about situations like this. My wife is no different. My sister even worse. She has an old farm house. There is a very small window in the attic. I always say to her I see a small child's face in the window then it vanishes. She will turn white as a sheet. The mind plays games sometimes.

Keep her happy. Find another house. :up:

[Tribesman]

Never pass on a bargain.
Buy it, rent it out and use the rent to rent another place while you are working on the farmhouse. No loss involved and you get the bargain property.
Alternatively on fixers, buy or rent a trailer to put on site until the farmhouse is habitable(if local regulations allow temporary dwellings), but still buy the bargain house.

[Takeda Shingen]

I've seen this film before.

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[AVGWarhawk]

:haha::o

[soopaman2]

I cannot help but to finish the quote of the title.


Pow! Right in the kisser.

To the Moon Alice!

Damn you Jackie Gleason, for making a woman beating quote so memorable, and not only harmless( He never hit her) but funny.

[Jimbuna]

Buy the property and put it in my name...problem solved.

Otherwise, as already suggested, buy then rent something else with the income generated from the original purchase.

[fireftr18]

I agree with Warhawk on this one. Sometimes we have certain feelings, or instincts about things. She may know something, but just can't put it into words. I was told a long time ago to listen to your instincts, they are based on knowledge,experience, and information you have received at some point.
I think maybe pass on this one. It may be a good deal financially, but it isn't emotionally.
The house we live in now, I had feelings that we shouldn't move to it, I now wish I had listened to those feelings (although it is a good house in a good neighborhood).

[Armistead]

Well, I live if a more rural town, somewhat depressed for NC, because it was once a thriving mill town. Still, house ranges are low to high. Our downtown hasn't changed much since the 20's. Course, we have our shopping strips, Walmart and even a Ruby Tuesdays.

Thing is, we're not rich, money has to be spent wisely. I bought the small house were in and can now sell it for a profit, so I want to let it go.

I'm buying it. They're so many foreclosed homes around here, houses are cheap anyway, but Ruger opened a factory and a few others are coming back. Plus across the Va line, about 15 minutes, they're building a large industrial complex. Investors are buying houses in mass to rent. Heck, many you can buy at auction for less than 10K and rent for $500 a month.

This house last sold in 92 for 78K, she was asking 36k, but she will take $25K, needs about 15K work. It's only 2 miles from the farm house. The larger farmhouse will take time and I still may sell it for the right price.

Even though the smaller house, about 1300 sq ft needs work, it was remodeled in the early 90's, new wiring, plumbing, insulated, decent roof, nice siding. It has nice wood floors, custom trim throughout from days past. Also has a decent 20x24 garage. Heck, my other house I sold in Winston Salem, I had more than 25K in the damn garage.

She just put the for sale sign on it, so I know investors will start calling. I already called and told her I would take it and bring her a deposit to hold it and have her a check next week. We've looked at probably 50 homes, most run about 50K and need total remodel.

I do sort of understand my wifes issues. When my mom died I could've taken her nice house and moved in it. It's not that it gave me the creeps, it was just too painful at that time. I regret now it's gone.

This is one case my wife is gonna lose. The house has a nice cellar, I can put me a bed down there, be nice and quiet. I don't believe in ghost or peoples spirits living around, what' left is memories, that's all, you can cherish them or let them torture you.

[Armistead]

I agree with Warhawk on this one. Sometimes we have certain feelings, or instincts about things. She may know something, but just can't put it into words. I was told a long time ago to listen to your instincts, they are based on knowledge,experience, and information you have received at some point.
I think maybe pass on this one. It may be a good deal financially, but it isn't emotionally.
The house we live in now, I had feelings that we shouldn't move to it, I now wish I had listened to those feelings (although it is a good house in a good neighborhood).


I understand, but instincts or gut feelings should have some logical basis. What I deplore is when people get a "feeling" then they let their minds run amuck. My wife is usually logical......for a woman, so I was somewhat taken back when she let non-founded emotions enter in to a great deal that would really help us out being near the other house. I know years ago she use to visit her friend in this house, she remembered the inside rather well.

I hope she will be OK. I don't want her to get in it and hear sounds or become worried. Heck, the old big farm house has many ghost stories attached to it, but never concerned her at all. I think it's just memories of her friend and how she died. Obvious, it she expresses it's very traumatic or becomes an issue, I'll make other plans. Hopefully we wouldn't be in it for more than a year or two.

Anyway, money is tight and will get tighter, I can't pass on this one.

[Armistead]

Buy the property and put it in my name...problem solved.

Otherwise, as already suggested, buy then rent something else with the income generated from the original purchase.

Ha, you have more net value in your hobbies than I do combined....forget it.

Enjoy your YOUTHFUL retirement....

[soopaman2]

Is there some kind of profit in it , ya think?

Like we all said above you can rent it out, with a few bucks maybe improve on it and resell.

Keep the wife happy man. But do not let a bargain pass you by.

I mean it is ok if ya do not live there.

If you do wish to live there, and she is still irked, then that is kinda personal. You can give her Email address on 4chan, maybe let those jerks convince her, or just bite the darn bullet, and maybe make what ya can out of it.:D

If all else fails tell her you are He-man, then roar, then slug her in the nose, and grunt and nod happily . (1950s solution):D

[Tribesman]

This is one case my wife is gonna lose. The house has a nice cellar, I can put ------------down there, be nice and quiet.
I read as far as cellar and thought you were having a Fritzel moment.

[Armistead]

If all else fails tell her you are He-man, then roar, then slug her in the nose, and grunt and nod happily . (1950s solution):D

As any of the other long time neutered married men here know, I lost my He-man roar within two years of marriage. I use to have a lot of nerves, but slowly my wife, pets, hobbies, kids, got on each one. There was a choice back then to be a man, put my foot down, leave, but I didn't, I gave in. At least I had an excuse then, because the sex was great.

Many times I stated "I'm down to my last nerve", but somehow found another one. I had a good single friend come visit us after some years. We we're sitting in the family room, kids playing, running around with all their friends, several furballs running around barking, several TV's on, phones ringing... He said something like "doesn't all the noise drive you crazy?" I replied "what noise?" There I sat beside my friend, a shell of the former man I once was, living in denial, not knowing my sanity had either passed or hanging by a thread.

Sure, I use to walk around my castle, saw the remnants of a once nice home, carpets stained, once I got brave and almost opened the door to the kids bedroom, but didn't want to lose my last nerve. Oh well, nothing $50k won't solve, maybe I should get a second job.

The thing is, most old timers know this, you finally do get down to that last nerve, the one if you give up, you're no longer any form of a man. Why we're still willing to give in or up 99% of the time, we hold on to that last nerve for dear life. I'm not sure if my wife understands, but sometimes over nothing I can go ape chit demonic over a simple issue, it's just in that moment I feel the need to protect my last nerve. It's those rare moments, once or twice a year, my wife will back off and let me feel like a man.

My wife thinks I'm helpless, but when I was single, I knew where my keys and wallet were, my socks matched, I wore clean underwear. The reason I can't find anything is due to the daze I now walk around in from having one nerve left.

So yes, I'll continue pretending I'm taking a 2 hour dump to read or sit in peace. My wife will holler through the door "we need to talk" and I'll scream "can't I at least crap in peace." Seemingly, she lets me crap in peace, although I fear one day I will forget to lock the door and she will walk in to find me sitting on the head with my pants on, head in my hands..

Sometimes my wife will remark "you're not the man you use to be" Sure, murder goes through my mind, living in jail with Bubba might be an improvement, but for some reason..

I love her.

[AVGWarhawk]

Armstead:
I'm not sure if my wife understands, but sometimes over nothing I can go ape chit, demonic over a simple issue, it's just in that moment I feel the need to protect my last nerve. It's those rare moments, once or twice a year, my wife will back off and let me feel like a man.


Been there brother. Understand completely.

[soopaman2]

You are a good man Armistead.

She may not show it, but I am more than sure she realizes it.:salute:

I kid when I make my jokes, (harsh jokes, mysogynistic) but a marriage is always a compromise.

Me and my wifey, good lord, I got a books worth of drama.

As well as 10 books of love, wives are kinda cool at times.:D

[Aktungbby]

Go with the 'nag' on this one Armistead, Gut instinct has no logic nor should it and it should never be discounted for that reason. As for your 'he-man roar, "Testere et contralto semper". (just grab tightly) And until you tell her she's gorgeous,...convincingly... stay away from those old cemeteries too, IF YOU'VE GOT MURDER ON YER MIND, THEY'RE USUALLY ONE STEP AHEAD OF 'YA . :arrgh!: