View Full Version : Am I being a jerk or not?
gimpy117
10-18-10, 06:17 PM
So Thursday, I Dropped the guy across the hall from me off at the train station so he could spend the weekend with his Girlfriend In Ann arbor. Just like the last time. So that was cool whatever...Ill drive him there for free and not expect gas money. So tonight, 3 hours before his expected arrival he texts me saying "hey can you pick me up at the train station" The problem is, I have plans with this girl i really like that I made this morning long before he called me. I feel like Its not fair for somebody who just had an entire weekend with "the girl he loves" to expect me to drop my plans with a girl i really like, you know. And by the way...he can't take a taxi because he's broke because he quit his job in the summer "because i didn't like it". While I have a car and am sitting on some cash because i worked 40+ hours a week.
But still, am I doing the right thing? or am i being an ass...you decide.
Takeda Shingen
10-18-10, 06:19 PM
How long does it take to get to the train station?
Castout
10-18-10, 06:25 PM
It's okay to me. You just need to explain to the guy that you have a date with a girl so you can't pick him up. You just need to tell him that so he would not wait for ya.
unless there's no other public transportation like bus . . . .which is unlikely
It depends on how good a mate he is. Is he just cadging a lift because you are a soft touch or are you tight?
I'd say stick to your plans and no bother. He's got to get his ass home from the station and if you're not available, then that's his problem not yours.
gimpy117
10-18-10, 06:30 PM
And yeah..I'm really that good of pals with him. But i "am the only guy he knows with a car"
but yes tarjak i think he figured that I was a nice guy and would do it automatically for him
its about a 10 min ride through downtown. the problem my date is right when he wants me to pick him up. And I don't know about public transportation this late. If he would have picked an earlier train it would not be an issue. Essentially he's counting on my to bail him out because he didnt want an earlier train.
His problem them. I wouldn't sweat it.
kiwi_2005
10-18-10, 08:46 PM
Take ya Gf along with you and pick him up. He's a mate and you should know better! No matter what, mates come first. :D
Castout
10-18-10, 09:36 PM
Take ya Gf along with you and pick him up. He's a mate and you should know better! No matter what, mates come first. :D
That is what Mr. Nice guy would do . . . .but . . . .sometimes being nice isn't nice.
People tend to use you. At least tell him that you wouldn't be able to pick him up.
SteamWake
10-18-10, 09:39 PM
Nope sorry call a cab. :03:
Takeda Shingen
10-18-10, 09:41 PM
If he was your roomate, I would have suggested picking him up, as the inconvenience of going to the station would be outweighed by the inconvenience of having to live with a hostile roomate for a year.
gimpy117
10-19-10, 12:52 AM
luckily he isn't he found another way back. I told him sorry i was busy...but I had a commitment
GoldenRivet
10-19-10, 01:29 AM
luckily he isn't he found another way back. I told him sorry i was busy...but I had a commitment
You did the right thing.
If it were me i would have just told him "man, normally i would have no problem with it but im busy with some other stuff right now."
doing someone a favor is ok
doing someone 10 favors and you end up getting walked all over.
Its like the sign over my wife's desk at work reads "I can only please one person per day. Today is not your day... tomorrow is not looking good for you either."
sometimes you just have to say no, that doesnt make you a jerk
If it's only 10 minutes by car then it still can't be that far, tell him to walk, will do him good!!:yep:
Castout
10-19-10, 02:09 AM
Its like the sign over my wife's desk at work reads "I can only please one person per day. Today is not your day... tomorrow is not looking good for you either."
sometimes you just have to say no, that doesnt make you a jerk
Your wife is creepy . . . . . .glad she's taken :O:.
On the last sentence couldn't agree more :up:
Jimbuna
10-19-10, 06:59 AM
luckily he isn't he found another way back. I told him sorry i was busy...but I had a commitment
You were right in your actions :yep:
Now don't forget to fet on that UK bound flight and pick me up from work tomorrow afternoon :DL
All's well that ends well!
And even for all the best relations with mates, you have to be careful not to let people trample over your own plans and your own life. I sadly let my brother do that, and I certainly don't recommend it to anyone :damn:
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