I'm Back!

[bookworm_020]

Hi All!

I'm back after a break away from here. It was due to the breakdown of my marriage.
My wife has suffered with depression and anxiety issues for a number of years, with addictive behavior thrown in for good measure.

For the last two years it's been getting worse, despite a lot of help and support of many people. It came to a head just before Christmas when my wife was sectioned and placed in a hospital over Christmas. After coming out she was still fragile and then went into a rehab to deal with alcohol and drug issues (over the counter pain killers).

During this time of section to rehab she took up smoking and seeing another person at the hospital she had been sectioned with (he was in their for trying to smoke half of Australia's pot production)

Given the choice of staying with me or going with cretin (my name for this low life), she chose cretin. He came out of the hospital at the end of March (he had been there since early December) saying to her he was a changed cretin. Within 2 months he has drained her of $5,000 and got her knocked up. He lives on a disability pension and what money he can sponge of his dad (who is well off)

She now lives with her folks, who suffer with cancer, has no job (she lost it due to reading material she wasn't ment to) and is planning to keep the kid. She is still seeing cretin after breaking up with him twice.

I'm just finishing up the settlement process of our separation (she collects the last of her stuff tomorrow! Amen!!!)

Oh, and just to make it interesting, I also passed all my tests and exams to become a train driver. With a 93% average in all exams and no resits.

My Motto for most of this year has been "one day at a time", some of those days have been longer than usual!

Other than that, nothing much has been happening:D

Well I got that off my chest, so back to my usual posts of saying something about nothing!:zzz:

[papa_smurf]

Welcome back:salute:

[Schroeder]

Welcome back.:salute:
Congratulations on passing your...er, would that be called a drivers licence for trains?:06:

[Jimbuna]

Welcome back....it should be all positive progress from now on.

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[mookiemookie]

You've been through a lot and it sounds like you're holding up well. Welcome back!

[jumpy]

Sorry to hear about that fella. Seems like there's a lot of it about (or maybe it's just me...)




My Motto for most of this year has been "one day at a time", some of those days have been longer than usual!

I hear that :x :yep:


I guess I ought to be glad my ex only had the depression and not the drug addiction hehe.

Hope all goes well for what you got lined up for the future.
I look at it like this: without that baggage hanging around, the odds should be in my favour :up:

oh, yeh, in case you didn't already know 'nobody ever leaves teh subsimz'. :DL

[STEED]

I too came back this year a couple of months back, welcome back. :salute:

[Takeda Shingen]

Welcome back, Bookworm. I'm very sorry to hear of the time you had. Here's to better times ahead.

[AVGWarhawk]

bookworm...most days you just got to keep on getting up! Looks like you have done your fair share of getting up! Good luck with your future endevours.

[TarJak]

Mate, sorry to hear you've had such a rough time. If you every feel the need to go for a beer just drop me a PM.

From the sounds of it you have survived and started to come out the other end of the tunnel.

All the best and hope things keep getting better for you.

Welcome back.

[frau kaleun]

Welcome back, and here's to better and happier days ahead. :salute:

[HunterICX]

Welcome back Bookworm!

Let's hope things will be more pleasant from now on :)

HunterICX

[Platapus]

Sorry to hear all that, but glad you are taking care of what needs taken care of. That's what adults do. :salute:

Great news on your train training :D

Let me catch you up on what you have missed on the General Topic forum

- some people have been whining about the President
- some people have been whining about the economy
- some people have been whining about congress
- some people have been whining about America in general
- some people have been whining about the people whining about the President, the economy, congress, America in general.

Welcome back, now you are up to speed. :yeah:

[Takeda Shingen]

Let me catch you up on what you have missed on the General Topic forum

- some people have been whining about the President
- some people have been whining about the economy
- some people have been whining about congress
- some people have been whining about America in general
- some people have been whining about the people whining about the President, the economy, congress, America in general.

That's pretty accurate.

[Ducimus]

Bookworm, i can relate to the first half of your story. I know how that portion goes quite well. Enjoy single life for awhile, it's an amazing relief to have that burden lifted. Personally i didn't realize how much of a burden my "ex" (never married her thank god) was until she was gone. Then i sat there wondering why I put up with her for so long.

[Sailor Steve]

We've had a couple of similar stories here this year. Not that it makes yours any less important or sad, just that it has happened to others as well, and almost exactly the way it happened to you.

Best of luck on your recovery, and the new job. You'll always have friends here, even if they're invisible friends you may never meet.

I know! Come to this years meeting! At least you can talk to people you know from here, and what could be worse than that?
:rotfl2:

[Jimbuna]

I know! Come to this years meeting! At least you can talk to people you know from here, and what could be worse than that?
:rotfl2:

There are a few possible responses to that, none of which would be true or accurate or of any value for that matter :DL

Seriously....if you can get to the Meet I'd thoroughly recommend you do :yep:

[UnderseaLcpl]

Welcome back, bookworm! Sorry to hear about the wife but it sounds like you realize you're better off, and you're right.:yeah:


Oh, and just to make it interesting, I also passed all my tests and exams to become a train driver. With a 93% average in all exams and no resits

:rock:Excellent! So are you moving trains yet or do you have a familiarization process to go through first?

[frau kaleun]

Seriously....if you can get to the Meet I'd thoroughly recommend you do :yep:

Plus I understand that Jimbuna here will snag you one really sweet ride at the airport. :rock:

[bookworm_020]

Thanks for your kind words, I know others have gone before me and had a far harder time than myself and others shall also follow the same path, alas.

At least we're still civil toward each other and there were no kids involved

Let me catch you up on what you have missed on the General Topic forum

- some people have been whining about the President
- some people have been whining about the economy
- some people have been whining about congress
- some people have been whining about America in general
- some people have been whining about the people whining about the President, the economy, congress, America in general.

Nice to see things haven't changed!:DL

Excellent! So are you moving trains yet or do you have a familiarization process to go through first?

No, I'm fully qualified after a year of training (no pun intended!) and can drive them by myself. I've been out on the rails since the 1st March. May God have mercy all all who board my train!:arrgh!:

[bookworm_020]

Sorry to hear about that fella. Seems like there's a lot of it about (or maybe it's just me...)

Depression is quite common, but few really speak up about it and it can be a hard thing to spot if you don't pay notice to the warning signs. If it was shown as a statistic like road deaths, people would be horrified.

You've been through a lot and it sounds like you're holding up well. Welcome back!

I've been surprised how well I've come through it. I realized early on that anger, rage and felling sorry for myself wasn't going to make anything better or solve the problems, it wasn't easy and there is still some way to go yet.

Congratulations on passing your...er, would that be called a drivers licence for trains?:06:

It's called qualifying or passing out (almost literal after doing your final practicals, you never sweat as much as you do then!)

[TarJak]

Once the inital shocks have passed moving on and closing those chapters in your life are the first steps to making everything OK again. Sounds like you are doing OK.

I was on a train the other day which kept stopping. I wondered if it was you driving.:O:

[Diopos]

...
Other than that, nothing much has been happening:D
...


Thank God!!!

I wish you the best from now on!

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[bookworm_020]

I was on a train the other day which kept stopping. I wondered if it was you driving.:O:

I stop where I need to stop, I go where I need to go and have plausible reasons why it's never my fault!:salute:

"It's my first day!"

"It was like that when I got here"

[Jimbuna]

Plus I understand that Jimbuna here will snag you one really sweet ride at the airport. :rock:

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[Sailor Steve]

I stop where I need to stop, I go where I need to go and have plausible reasons why it's never my fault!:salute:
How hard can it be? It's not like you have to steer or anything. :shifty:

[UnderseaLcpl]

How hard can it be? It's not like you have to steer or anything. :shifty:

Yeah, that's what I thought. Oddly enough, I was thinking the exact same thing the first time I had sex.

[Jimbuna]

Yeah, that's what I thought. Oddly enough, I was thinking the exact same thing the first time I had sex.


ROFLMAO :rotfl2:

Classic :rock:

[TarJak]

Yeah, that's what I thought. Oddly enough, I was thinking the exact same thing the first time I had sex.
but as you were on your own it didn't matter and you were able to stop when you had to stop and go when you had to go without inconveniencing anyone else?:D:O:

[UnderseaLcpl]

but as you were on your own it didn't matter and you were able to stop when you had to stop and go when you had to go without inconveniencing anyone else?:D:O:


It's not my fault your wife left in the middle of it. You weren't supposed to be home yet.:arrgh!:

[Jimbuna]

LMAO ya crazy buggas :DL

[TarJak]

She gets bored when nothings happening. I should know.:O::D

[UnderseaLcpl]

She gets bored when nothings happening. I should know.:O::D


Could you keep your "nothing" from happening in the future until after we get to the good bits?:DL

[bookworm_020]

How hard can it be? It's not like you have to steer or anything. :shifty:

No, I don't have to steer. That's up to a bunch DVD watching, ipod listening, think I'll go to the loo and leave all signals at red signalers (NCO's). They have many a time tried to send me on a scenic tour of the rail network!


Yeah, that's what I thought. Oddly enough, I was thinking the exact same thing the first time I had sex.

Please keep your hands to yourself in future!

[TarJak]

Could you keep your "nothing" from happening in the future until after we get to the good bits?:DL
Let me know what the good bits are so I'll know when not to make the nothing happen.

All aboard!:D

[Jimbuna]

She gets bored when nothings happening. I should know.:O::D

Hence her pet name for you being 'Justun' :har: