[THEBERBSTER]

Hi MN

Do I go back to Menel or go to Kiel now ??

Make you way to Kiel, never go back to Memel.
Do a manual save 200km from Kiel and exit to the desktop.
Reload your game and continue to Kiel.
Do not dock before 00.00 4th September GMT/stopwatch time otherwise you will not be able to request the next mission.
In other words you must be at sea before you can request the next mission showing on the map.
Always check the stopwatch time not Nautical time.

On the OH main mod page there is a "Grid request Fix patch" Do I need this??

Only if you want to receive orders to patrol certain grid areas.
Each mission then contains 3 separate grid patrol areas each one completed earns you 1 crew bonus point.
You will still receive a special single mission objective from time to time.

this what was overwriting something and not making it work right; but then again maybe it was changing tutorial >true all along.

No connection between the too.

Mods can overwrite other mods using the same files, this is not a problem as long as the mods do not need the same file/s to work correctly or your game will ctd at some point.
In relation to the mods you are showing this is not a problem.
Peter