I saw the videos of Arma i44 here and on youtube.Loos very impressive! In the samre vein Red Orchestra also offers the possibility of MP tank players.I saw the trailer for Heroes of Stalingrad and it looks really awsome!
My own dream would be a combo or hybrid rts/tank sim one that allows you to play a rts like Panzer Command, or TOW or Men of War and then pick the vehicle or tank of you choice and join the battle you've organised inside the tank drive or act as gunner .That would be a dream!